What is Renal Cell Carcinoma Kidney Cancer
Renal cell carcinoma, also known by a gurnistical tumor, is the most common form of kidney cancer arising from the renal tubule. It is the most common type of kidney cancer in adul...
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Helping Mom since her kidney removal for RCC
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Hi- my mom is recovering from nephrectomy surgery 2 days ago. She needs to have her lungs checked, because nodules have shown up on her xrays. My dad had nodules removed for biopsy, and ended up have chunks of his lung removed only to find out with steroids would shrink them. I am not sure what to think. She is at U of Penn, which is a great hospital. Dad went there too. They want to get her strength up before they test the lungs.
I am so exhausted, and even though I have a brother and sister, and my dad who isn't in the best shape- I am feeling the weight of the world on my shoulders. I shouldn't complain and just be there for her, but with 2 young daughters, a job and hubby...I am stretched thin. Mom counts on me because I ask the right questions, and "calm" her. All of the stress is really putting pressure on me to keep things together for her, because my sister is a drama queen, brother is busy with kids and work even though his wife is a stay at home mom, and dad is trying to do stuff that physically he shouldn't be. I am trying to keep any pettiness away, because this is ultimately about mom, nobody else. I am just frustrated with my family, with the hospital, and exhausted. Thank you for letting me vent. Posted on 06/05/09, 08:06 am |
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You do have the weight of the world on your shoulders.
In an ideal world everyone would band together and each help equally to the best of each's ability. But then in an ideal world we wouldn't have cancer. Anyway, it isn't a perfect world. I'm sorry to hear your Mom's illness. I had an almost identical case to her. My first oncologist didn't want to remove the lung nodules (or even to chemo, for that matter) at first. After consult with a more knowledgeable oncologist I did have a lung resection and was glad that I did. For me it was the right choice. I think for you and your Mom, find an oncologist who is experienced in rcc and mrcc. And even better, one who will listen to you and take the time to explain. As far as venting, you have come to the right place. There are many people here who will give you caring support and lend an ear and shoulder when you need it. Best of luck to you and your mom. Dave 
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Hi, I really feel for you. You should not apologize for needing to vent, I think caregivers need to be able to get that out from time to time, because they do have an awful lot of responsibility thrust upon them. My grandmother has MRCC and my mother is in a similar situation to you and doing so much right now to help care for her. She has a big family and while some are contributing, it seems like the bulk of care is falling on my mom and she's finding it stressful. I'm limited to how much I can help as I am myself recovering from a serious illness, though I wish so much that I could do more. So just don't feel bad about getting frustrated sometimes, and it is healthy to be able to let it out, it will keep you as sane as is possible in such a difficult situation.
I wish all the best for you and your family........Sarah
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You are a HERO!! Much like my wife. She saw me thru 3 extended hospital stays last year. She runs a construction business and we care for her stroke ridden Dad who lives with us. 15 years of caring for him even though she has 6 siblings. They want nothing to do with him or his problems. God gives the responsibilities to those special Hero's!! It is a gift that you can manage the task. You will be tired and frustrated. But your rewards will be many! Best wishes to you!
lenny
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