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It sounds to me like you could use some therapy yourself about agonizing over not being able to protect your sister. That thought will continue to mess with you more than you think. As for your sister, you can't push her into therapy. You can't even push her to open up to you. All you can do is reassure her that you understand and that you are always there for her if & when she needs to talk about it. Maybe she really is over it. Or maybe she really is repressing. The thing is, no amount of talking or counseling will help her if she is not ready to accept it. And once you make her feel that you are a safe person to turn to, she will come to you when she is ready to talk. Believe it or not, she will feel better just knowing that she can turn to you if & when she needs to. So many of us who have been through this feel like no one understands. I'm glad your sister has you. I'm sorry this had to happen to either one of you.

i can definitely relate (though my situation is a bit different).
my cousin and i were abused by the same man (my uncle, her father). she was taken out of his home when a friend of hers reported him. she never told what he did to me, and i am very grateful for that. i, however, still feel tremendously guilty that i never told anyone what he was doing to her because i didn't want people to find out about me. my secret was kept, and hers was exposed. i feel guilty that she had it much worse (she lived with the bastard, and he beat her). despite all this, she seems to repress everything. she still sees him on a regular basis and even lets him care for her son. the only words she has said acknowledging what happened was "i hate my father," said to me 9 years ago. she never said anything else. i have only seen her (or him) once in the last 8 years -- at her wedding (where he walked her down the aisle).
so while the situation is clearly a bit different, i certainly understand what you mean when you say "knowing that this happened to her is much worse than any of the flashbacks or nightmares of what happened to me."

feel free to message me if you want to chat.

Thank you for the support. I really think she might be over it she seems fine, and either way she knows I will always be there for her. She also knows about DS if she ever feels she needs it, and from experience I know how amazing the ppl here are and how much they can help.

Hi there,Thnks for sharing your story. Im a mother of 5 girls and wa molested by my father my entire childhood. When I had girls my biggest priority was to keep them safe and to never let what happened to me happen to them. I married my second husband and it turns out that his son molested 2 of my girls. it was a nightmare for me. then when they were older i was never fond of sleep over and I let my daughter skeep over at her friends house. well it turned out that an uncle came over and decided to spend the night and he raped her. And then my baby girl who was only 14 had the same thing happen to her. I have been so angry because of this. I never wanted them to experience what i went through and then it happenen!!! Why!!! I guess im just thankful that i have been able ti help them because i have been in their shoes. If you ever need to talk please write to me. Annalee