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I am wondering if it's ok for me to be as on edge about my children as I am. My mother's boyfriend was my abuser, and he had known me since I was a baby. He used to babysit me. I don't think he abused me as a baby, I have no way I could know that though.
But now everytime a man wants to hold my daughters I freak out. I think maybe I am a little to on the edge about pedophiles hunting my child down...my husband told me I was being ridiculous. My daughter is almost 7 years old. Excuse me for not wanting an older man to touch or be around her. The paranoia is really getting to be too much for me I think. Even when we are at church I don't want her to be around any of the men. I am just afraid she will have to suffer as I did. I could not EVER live with myself if I let that happen... Am I being as ridiculous as I feel? Posted on 06/30/09, 08:06 pm |
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You aren't as rediculous as you think you are... my mom is overprotective because my biological father was extremely abusive to her. I hate it sometimes but I understand.
I think your paranoia is a good thing in a way. besides, a 7 year old doesn't need to be held... 
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Decide what you can and cannot handle for your daughters.
Then set standard rules to be followed by everyone. 1. My daughter can only go into a friends house if the mother is present.(even if her best friend lives with a single dad) 2. None of my children can enter a home, unless I've been in it, and know the parents well. 3. My daughter cannot get rides from men. 4. Follow your gut. Everytime I get a bad feeling about a man or household, it's been right. 5. Remember you are called as your child's living protecting angel by God. He will help you fulfill that sacred responsibility. Once the rules are set, and you daughters and others understand them, you just may feel better. Even at my church we have strict rules regarding men and children. If a man teaches a child's class he has to team teach or leave the classroom door open at all times.
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no, I don't think you are being ridiculous protecting our children is instinctual. One thng I may say though is I wonder if working through your history may be beneficial. I have not seen your profile and don't know if you are having any counselling. I was often scared (and quite rightly so)that what happened to me would happen to my daughter so in effect I was living my fears through her. Of course I worry, but she is free to be herself and I have learned to be me.
Take care Deb
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you arent being ridiculous. not at all. it is quite understandable...i have the feeling that when i have children i am going to be similar to you. because even now, at the age of eighteen, when older men look at me, it scares me...insanely...
your husband doesnt quite understand why you worry...and i gotta ask ya, why would someone want to hold a seven year old?
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