What is Rape
Rape is, in most jurisdictions, a crime defined as sexual intercourse or penetration without valid consent by both parties. In many jurisdictions, the penetration of the anus or th...
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When i was five,i was raped by someone i trusted. and,like, now i'm afraid because me and my boyfriend are getting kind of physical. im not afraid he's gonna hurt me or anything, i'm afraid that once i tell him i was raped, he might not love me quite as much. i know it sounds stupid, considering i'll still be the same person i was when he first met me, its just i don't know. i haven't gotten any help my entire life. my parents knew it, but would ignore it and pretend it hadn't happened. they would close their ears the moment i started trying to express how i felt. And, i guess atm i just need people to talk to who understand what i'm going through. I don't know exactly what i'm asking advice for, i just need someone to talk to \:
Posted on 11/01/09, 03:11 am |
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It doesn't sound stupid at all. when I first remembered, I told my boyfriend, and he dumped me, and I was so upset I repressed the memories again and they didn't come back for years. when they broke in on my again it was in the form of terrifying flashbacks. It's not a dumb fear at all because it can happen, a man really can get scared and leave you if he finds out you're not a perfect fantasy woman but a real woman. You know what though? It took me a decade to get over it, but now I'm glad I didn't end up marrying the dope. A man who can't give emotional support is not the right man. So go ahead and tell your boyfriend, and if he goes away then he was never the right guy in the first place, and it's better to find out before you waste any more years of your life on him. And if he's great about it, then you've found your Mr. Right. All relationships involve risk. Go for it. 
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I am sorry that you went through this hun. I am sorry that your parents won't listen to you either. I think that they are probably in denial because of how old you were at the time and they should have protected you. They are probably feeling immense guilt right now. I know it doesn't help you now. It is not stupid that you have these fears about your boyfriend. I had them too. If your boyfriend truly cares and loves you, then he will listen to what you have to say and want you just as much afterwards. It's natural that your fears would come up now that you're getting physical with him. I had that too. I hope things work out for you when you tell him. I am here if you need to chat or need support. Take care x
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