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I've been anally raped several times by 2 different partners, and every time I start convincing myself that it wasn't my fault... I just ask myself 'why didn't I just hit them? '
I keep shovelling blame on to myself, and I know I need to stop. Does anyone have any advice...? It's tearing me apart feeling like I could have stopped them if I'd been able to put my feelings for them aside and try and hurt them back. Posted on 07/11/12, 09:18 pm |
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i'm so sorry that that happened to you.....putting blame on yourself is totally normal......and it can turn into a downward spiral.....you are right..it is totally NOT your fault.....i'm glad that you know that....as for putting the blame on yourself....you did what you did because it was out of fear......most likely hurting your rapist either gains you more pain and even if you do hurt them, they won't stop....they ususally make you comply with whatever they;re doing.....i was rapoed twice and the second time i did nothing but cry, beg him to stop and did what he said so he wouldn't hurt me....i wish i had hit him or gotten out of the car etc. etc. but i ddin't becasue i was so scared....something that i would do, is stand in fromt of the mirror and say,"i am not to blame....nothing i did or didn't do is my fault..." say those wrods five times every day and it may help.....hope this helped....if you ever wanna talk, i'm here 
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