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Diffuse parenchymal lung disease (DPLD), also known as interstitial lung disease, refers to a group of lung diseases, affecting the alveolar epithelium, pulmonary capillary endothe...
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I want to know how you as a caretaker of a loving husband or wife deal with their anger, mood swings, irratibilty and depression. All of these are expected and not something I would not relate too. However, when they are all aimed at you for trying to be helpful and supportive, well sometimes I feel like I have a terrible two year old and then 5 min. later he is desperately in need of my help. I want to be patience and calm but sometimes it seem like he brings the distuption in his care on himself which is not the case. How do you cope?
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It's so strange that you should post on this subject today ! I nearly put it on here myself.
Mike is deffinitely more irritable and querulous, not like his normal self. He doesn't mean it , and feels bad when he is snappy but it hurts at times and worries me too as I wonder if it will get worse :( I probably cope the same as you do ! Take a breath and give him a hug lol He does accept the fact that he is being "difficult" at times, and I do try and understand how frustrated he must feel to be dependent on me...when he has always been the strong one. Hope you keep going, message me if you need to vent ! HUGS 
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Ask your doctor about something for your husbands to take for anxiety. I take welbutrin. I was having problems dealing with it all emotionally and when I finally told the doctor he actually said he was surprised that I hadn't asked sooner for some help. It is hard to ask for help and I know the frustration and anger they are feeling, but it will help everyone if they can feel less stressed by the whole situation they may be as I was too embarrassed to ask for help thinking what would the doctor think if I couldn't cope. He was very understanding and very helpful and it also now a point he makes sure to talk to be about at each visit. Hugs
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I know in my case, part of his anger and irratibility is form the lack of O2 and a stroke. What makes this harder to deal with is that for the last 20years he was my caretaker due to a severe work injury that left me with limited use of my r-arm and chronic pain on a constant basis. He did all the driving, laundry and grocery shopping. None of which he can't do now. I have taken over all of it with no help. He was up all night last night, I woke up to chocolate pudding all over the kitchen cabinets...smeared all over the floor and refridge. I cleaned up every thing but the floor and the front of the cabinets. He got mad because I ask him to clean the front of the cabinets and the floor. On top of all that he does not remember making the mess. What makes this hard for me...most of all is I KNOW it is going to get worse.
I hope you don't have to go through this. Hugs. Debi
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Sounds like you need a break do they offer home care where you are. It would be a good idea to have someone come in help out a bit to give you time away. Take care Hugs
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