Prostate Cancer Support Group

MY HUSBAND IS IN DENIAL . HE HAS STAGE 4 CANCER, STARTED OUT AS PROSTATE CANCER , HE IS 85 AND SAYS HE DOESN'T HAVE ANY THING WRONG WITH HIM. HIS CANCER HAS SPREAD TO HIS BONES NOW , AND HE REFUSES TO BELIEVE HIS DR. HE FIRST WAS TOLD OF THE CANCER 5 YRS AGO WHEN HIS PSI WAS 6 NOW IT IS 78. I KNOW HE IS A VERY PROUD MAN , AND SAYS HE IS IN NO PAIN , HE IS VERY ACTIVE AND i WANT HIM TO SLOW DOWN AND NOT RAKE YARD AND SNOW BLOW AS HE DOES STILL . AM I WRONG? SHOULD I JUST LET HIM GO AS LONG AS HE DOES, U KNOW WHY NOT HE IS DOING WHAT HE WANTS . BUT THE KIDS SAY WE SHOULD MOVE TO TOWN AND ALL NOW . AS MY HEALTH ISN'T GOOD AND HE STILL DRIVES I DON'T. HOW DO YOU GET A STUBBORN MAN TO SLOW DOWN AND NOT DRIVE . WITH OUT DISTROYING HIM MORE . ANY ADVICE

Dear bloomoon,
I am very sorry to hear about your husband. Unfortunately, since he is the one who has a cancer, there is nothing you can really do. I mean, the mood swings and want to keep on living the way he has used to is very typical for cancer patients, and in a way, maybe it is easier for him to deal with situation.
Maybe try not to change his perception of the situation, and just keep on standing right beside him and support every action he performs. I understand, that you are worried and want the best for him, but I believe that there is nothing more you can do in this particular moment than being a loving wife.
Warm greetings,
Jasmiina

I applaud your husband for his fiesty approach to life.

Just love him for who he has been over the years and more so for for who is today.

If he's happy then be happy with him and when he's blowing snow just wave at him with a big smile from a visible window.

Best to you and you courageous hubby

Canuck1947

Thank you all for your advice . We are very lucky to live this long and he is happy that's more important then a rocking chair huh . your right . And all listen to this [ love, live,and enjoy every second ] Don't dwell on what will be later on, sandy