Prostate Cancer Support Group

Your friend will be going through a total Life Style change that will prevent him from returning to the things we take for granted.

I think you can support him by not forcing him to do things that you feel he needs to do after having his surgery.

He is not going to want to go out, he is not going even talk about it so let him initiate conversation and don't ask him about it. Let him know your available to be witrh him when ever you can including short road trips when hes ready.

Other than that give him lots of space and time to accept the changes.

I had robotic surgery 18 months ago. Successful all the way around. Make sure the Dr does these on a routine basis. My Dr does an average of 7 per week.

Suggest you "just be there for him". Until he gets the catheter out, he will not want to go out much. If he is not taking drugs for pain he will probably feel like doing "normal" activities.

I would caution you to not change your relationshp,. dont change expectations of his abiity to do anything. He will have the ability to do anything he did before (with a 5 pound wieght rerstriction for a few weeks) in due time.

Be there as a friend and watch ball games if that is what you are into with him or just sit around and have a beverage of your liking. Smile and remind him that he will no longer be in the "old mans" group that has to get up everynight to pee.

Thanks for the replies. He's going in next week for the procedure. I've known hin for a few years and I'll take your suggestions and put them to good use.
Thank you.