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One of the worse things in life is to watch a family member commit a slow suicide with drugs or alcohol. My mother died of sirosis at the age of 52. The guilt I carried with me for years was enormous and only recently was I able to release that guilt.

All you can do is be an example for him. Show him that you do not need drugs to be happy. Until he takes responsibily for his addiction leave him be until he reaches his low point. Of course if he holds out his hand to you just grab it and take him to the nearest na meeting! The worse thing you can do is enable him, meaning helping him with money or anything that will help him to continue using.

If you can find an interventionist in your area, that may help also. But in the meantime, you should be going to Al-anon meetings to help yourself. Until you get help for yourself, this family member's addiction is going to affect you in a very negative way.

Good luck and God Bless!

How do you suggest I deal with the anger coming from him? Name calling, cutting himself, etc? How do you just let someone be....that is attacking on a daily basis?

Oh hun! hugs! If he is attacking you then I would call the police and tell them the story but if he is attacking himself, I would still call the police or call the Crisis intervetion center. They should be listed in your phonebook. they will get involved and see to it that he gets the help he needs.

In my area alone, 90 percent of arrests are drug related and quite often, a condition of probation is to stay away from drugs and alcohol after going through a court ordered rehab program. It may be exactly what he needs!

Hope this helps and good luck. Please keep us updated.

God Bless!

thanks alot. I really appreciate your advice.

In my 20's, I was addicted to Cocaine and near the end, started cutting myself. At the time it did feel good, I felt empowered...that's how sick I was. I ended up shaving all my hair off one night, too. I could pound back the Black Russians like they were water. Eventually, a friend called my parents(I had ended up in the hospital), and my Mom flew to where I was living and forced me to come home. i then started a self-imposed detox...OMG that was hard.
But, it did get easier, as I was away from all my drug friends and drug 'triggers'.
That was 12 years ago.
Do you know why he is unhappy?

Hey EP-

It's been a few days since your last post. Are you okay? What happened?

i'm on my way to work....i gotta NEW JOB!! More money. Yesssss. Been a real rough day but I promise tomorrow I will fill you in on the details. Thanks for caring.

oh man.....where to begin......there was lots of arguing back and forth.....he ended up bowing up at me......I slapped the fun out of him......he called the cops.....I took my kid and left....stayed at a friends house til things cooled down........called my brother, father mother, sisters, all my friends for support.....he says he's moving out and wants a divorce....for now....I am refusing to argue.....I'm not fighting back....I'm not tuning him out....but I am being very patient....when he does yell questions....I answer calmly...."i don't want to argue in front of the kids....its not the best time to talk right now" and i just keep saying things of that nature......and surprisingly.....I am calmer....and he has within 24 hours....realized that there is no sense in screaming for every reason.....when you get no response. I love my husband very much. I'm very sad that he has made the choices that he has made. I pray that he sees the light. I'm focusing on what I need to do and focusing on fixing only myself and my kids. The new job I told you guys about......got fired....my husband kept calling my boss over and over on his private cell....leaving terrible messages about me....and they let me go after only one day-......but thats ok.....I spend the entire next day looking for a job.....and i got my old job back selling time share.....very excited about that. I'm going to just keep fighting for myself and everything will be fine my way. I'm still concerned for him....but I can't concern myself too much with him anymore. Not sure whats going to happen. I'm tired of the verbal assults......but I feel ssooooooooooo much better now that I've learned to tune it out. I'm just trying to do things that keep me and my kids happy. Longer bath times.....having slumber parties in the living room. Good stuff. Things are really crazy around here right now. Not sure if I'm coming or going. But I see the light......its within reach......to be cont.....

Good for you EP - It seems like you are doing your absolute best to handle this well for yourself and for your children. I wish you much luck, please continue to take good care of yourself. Yay on getting your job back too! Hugs, take good care.

I want to second that yay! If you were to leave your husband, it may be the low that your husnand needs in order to get help for his problem.
In my case my wife actually filed divorce papers on me and the following day I was in detox.

But taking care of yourself and your kids is axactly what the doctor ordered!

Good Luck!