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Hello, Laura here from GA. I need advice quick. My son dated a girl, both are 17, then broke uo 3 or 4 weeks they got back together and she was pregnant! we were with her all through pregnancy and childbirth, her family has basically throwed her away she really has no one. Was coming everyeveening visiting all through pregnancy and after baby was born always had to be home by 10:00 pm I had no problem with that, but, she was her one night and baby. at 2 months had his first shots that day, while they were here he just screamed in pain fron shots and felt so bad, we get him calmed down and he falls asleep. well abouy 5 after 1000 her curfew, i asked her not to wake baby up he just went to sleep and needed to wake up on his on so maybe he would feel better. We all called her mom to let her know she would be late because we dindt want to wake baby yet. she decides to leave baby let him sleep and we take him home when he wakes up but mom and stepdad do not answer repeated phones calls so we could explain anyway she went on home and all doors were locked at her houes, they locked her out! knowing she had 2 month old baby, they locked her out! I took her in her and son still had relationship at this time taking care of baby together because there was possibility child was his. Wellll did a paternity test, was not my Sons! he we were all devastated because we wanted him to be ours so bad and really believed he was. well son took it pretty hard, they argued quite a bit so i decided she should move out only place she had left to go was dads or sisters which neither she is happy at they live good ways from the school here where she wanted to finish. I love both her and her baby so much i literaaly cry cause i miss em so bad I need to know if there is a way to have her back and make it work? My son is not to keen on the idea but i feel in my heart i she needs me and i need her she needs a family and a mother and i am glad to be both just don't know how to do it without possibbly losing son. I need advice on this really quick i have tried and tried to find the answers. I just feel like i need to be there for her. she is young mother has no one to teach her things she doesn't know about. I just need to know how to handle please advise quickly thank you Laura
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hi laura. first off you are an amazing person for wanting to reach out to this girl.. but i dont think you should do wrong by your son maybe u should talk to him more about her moving back in first. are they still talking or even together? maybe there is a chance that it could go all up hill from there and her moving in could be the greatest thing ever.. then again it could go the total wrong way and be the wrost thing ever so it really depends on how your son will handle it. if he wants to try to be a father to this child that turned out not to be his then he is an even greater man. my husband is my daughters father not bio but he still is her dad. but you shoudl think it over sometimes our wants and how you feel such a strong need to help this girl could cloud your better judgment. i know what its like to be a teen mother and its very hard it confuses you and also can rob you of your child hood so to speak. if your son is willing to be a father and you a grandmother to this boy then all the power to you two thats awesome i always said every child needs a father figure and a great support system to grow up into happy and stable adults koodos to you!! 
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Yes they just started talking again she's at her dads. they are not arguing but son is 17 already talikng to another girl lol thet are fast arent thry? They are actually having normal pleasant conversations. I went and visited yesterday and she seems to be settling again in, sorta, she has a problem with having to change schools she's dreading that and talking about putting baby in daycare and gettind a job i told her nooo finish school! she's in 11th grade plus she gets 500.00 + a month from her moms disability i told her to take advantage and stay home with him while he is at this precioos age, 4 months. While i saw she was settling in i still felt she wasn't happy and not sure whats going to happen next but i have clearly told her that always i will be on her side whatever she decides to do. So i'm gonna play by ear a couple more weeks. i can go get baby for visits anytime i want, and see where things are going before school starts back, what do you think, good decision? Thank you soo much for the great advice really helps just talking about it~ lol thanx~Laura
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