Pregnancy After Loss/Infertility Support Group

After 3 miscarriages I decided not to tell anybody that I am pregnant. I told people at work at 20 weeks, well because I couldn't hid it anymore. Two of my friends found out then I was 30 weeks and that it. I told everybody else after my baby was born and everyone took it well. It your body, your baby and your choice of who and when to tell.

I am with Mira21. It's hard to let that information be out there. Whenever it is best for you to share is when it is best. No question about it. My hubby and I didn't tell anyone until I was 20 weeks also and I just couldn't hid it anymore.

I lost twins at 14 weeks and that was the most emotionally difficult time so far for me through this pregnancy. So I am sending you lots of support for over the next month. When you get past that milestone of 20 weeks hopefully you will start to feel a little better. I know that it has really helped me to be able to feel baby kicking everyday its really reassuring.

Your body, your baby, your choice. Tell them when you are ready. And I think it is ok to feel scared. It just shows how you want to protect your little one, and how great a Mommy you will be.

We lost our daughter at 21 weeks. We had waited until we were 12 weeks to tell anyone because we had friends of ours who told everyone they were expecting right away, and then ended up miscarrying. I saw what they went through, and I did not want that heartache. We are 10 weeks right now with our rainbow and the only people we have told are my managers at work and each of our very close friends. Family does not even know yet. I am not even going to tell anyone else (after we tell our families) until I start showing and people start asking questions. Its not that I am not excited, I am just being way more guarded this time around.

I am very scared to tell my inlaws. Especially since we dont get along. This pregnancy is very scary for me. I dont think I will be able to have a normal pregnancy after losing my baby logan at 40 weeks and 5 days. It just isnt posible for me to be calm, relaxed, and act like everything is perfect. Because inside I am so scared, and will probably be scared till I hear my baby cry, and get to hold him or her.

With my first pregnancy, that was a normal pregnancy, so was Logans up until we had no heart beat. Its just hard to be a normal pregnant person for me after what I have been through.

I have had 4 m/c and just found out i'm pg for the 7th time ( I have 3 kiddos). I haven't told anyone yet, but I will soon. I found that for myself, it was much easier to have the support of everyone. When people didn't know I was expecting and then I disappeared from work, they didn't know what happened so my poor dh had to relive it for weeks explaining to people. You just have to do what feels right to you. A normal pregnancy will never again happen for any of us here and that's a terrible shame:( Good Luck mama!!!

I am only 4 weeks but I am also thinking about when to announce.
I don't want to get everyone all excited too early on.

Ideally we would like to wait until after the first trimester before telling our families - but I live in a different country to my own family, and I will be back with them for a visit when I am approx 8 weeks. It is the only chance I will have to tell them face to face instead of over the phone, so I am thinking about it.

Like readytotryagain, loss is all I know - even after a problem-free pregnancy, so I too will be a nervous wreck until I have my baby safe and sound in my arms.

Have you been able to tell anyone yet? We're currently 11 w 3 d and have told immediate family and some close friends, but other than that are waiting. We've have two m/c, one at 16 weeks and one at 8 weeks, so I understand where you're coming from. I think what we've decided thus far is to wait until 24 weeks (viability) and then share, and even now think we may just wait until s/he arrives to announce. I go back and forth. When you've had losses, there is that reservation and I think many understand. Hugs to you.

I have been very apprehensive about telling people. I pretty much only tell people who are on a need-to-know basis, such as my boss and co-workers. I work in a Biochemistry lab, so there are some chemicals that can be harmful during pregnancy, so I did tell those that I work with, so that they can make sure that they don't spill any dangerous chemicals and not clean them up, and make sure my boss does not have me work with, or inventory, any dangerous chemicals. They have been very understanding and helpful since I have told them, so I glad I did.

However, besides that, I have only told my two closest friends, and we have told our parents and a couple of our very close friends that we see on a daily basis. All of the people we have told though have been very supportive and know about our loss, so if something were to happen again, I would want those people there with us, so we told them. Other than that, we are not announcing anything until he is here. Or if I decide to have a baby shower, I am not sure yet, then obviously that will be an announcement of some kind.

Just tell who you are comfortable telling. I kind of stick by the rule, only tell those who you would have no problem giving the opposite news to, just incase. For me, when we lost our daughter, the hardest thing was having to answer people whom I didn't know that well when they would ask questions about how the baby is doing.

I'm 30 weeks and we've told our parents and very few others. We didn't tell my inlaws till I was 20 weeks and I was 28 weeks when we told my family, and only because I went home for my brother's graduation and couldn't hide it. We decided that we can tell 10 people outside of immediate family and other than that, I'm just keeping a low profile and not going anywhere we'll run into people we know. We'll be doing a shower after we have this baby (hopefully!) and one of my friends is getting together all the newborn baby stuff I'll need and keeping it at her house. I don't want anything in my house till the baby is here. So far that's what is the best thing for me:)

I had 3 mc all in less then a year. A few of our close friends knew, and my family. I also found it easier having the support. I am currently 17 weeks pregnant, and tho we werent trying, we are so happy. I told my family around 8 weeks, and then announced it publically when i was 12 weeks, over mothers day. I have found that the more i talk about it, the better i feel, and also i find more women who have been thru the same situation. It is nothing to be ashamed of, tho it is tragic, and i feel like talking about it helps...tho it definitely took me some time to tell others...Do what you feel is best, and easiest for you and your SO. Good luck!