Pregnancy Support Group

Focus on what you do have....a loving relationship and a healthy baby on teh way.

Then organize/plan/control what you can. Plan your registry/nursery/etc. As you get closer to your due date, organize your home, cook/freeze meals, read the books etc you need to and prepare what you can prepare for baby's arrival.

These are all small things but will give you some semblance of "control" to your life as the scary unknown comes around.

FINALLY - invest in a good webcam and try to have lot of pics of teh belly/birth/baby for your partner to see when the big day arrives.

ok... my husband is in the army. We did the whole basic thing a little over a year ago. My first question is can he postpone his entry date til after the baby is born? My hubby as able to postpone up to a year from the date he signed on. If thats not an option here is a couple fo things to help you prepare.


1) Plan on only getting letters for the lengh of basic. From what I understand befor they even go the drill sergents know exactly how many times they will usually let the peeps call hime. They tell them it is once a week and then they use it as a form of punishment and take it away when they were never even planning on letting them call in the first place. Also the calls are usually only allowed to be 5 minutes and they have a sergent standing over their shoulder so its hard to express sentiment. My husband was able to call rougly once per phase and did get one or 2 other chances to call when he "earned" it by doing extra work for the drill sergent while the other guys went to church. I think all in all he called 5 times in 9 weeks.

That aside.... does he have a lap top? And a cell phone???? If not it would be worth the investment. He wont be allowed to have them for basic but when he goes to AIT (advanced training) he will and then he can call daily and use the pc at nite to chat web cam exchange pics ect. I went to a rental store and rented a laptop and mailed it to my huband to help us stay in touch.

MY husband is leaving from september 28 to december 19th for further training and Ill be my most pregnant then. Im due in january. Im scared out of my mind that Ill have a premie and he wont be here. I have no family close by and I have a 4 year old. I will have to have a c section even. If the baby comes early then I dont know what ill do with my daughtrer while I have a 3 day hospital stay. I dont have any close friends in state to help out. I totally understand the fears and the lonelyness. Its not selfish at all to want him there when his son is born. Can I asked what prompted him to join??? Was it at all in responce to wanting to provide stabilty for the baby? Thats why my husband joined. He wanted my daughter to have some stability.

Take some pictures of him befor he leaves just doing normal daily stuff and make a little scrap book. WHen your lonely its nice to see your mate doing what he does normally even if its just playing on the computer.

Buy some of the body wash he uses and use it after he leaves... smells stimulate the brain and can help lift spirits. plus if you smell like daddy then the smell wont be unfamiluar to the baby when he does come home. I found myself sleeping with his shower puff and thats when I just started washing with ax lol... yes I got some weird looks but I felt better and a lot closer to my husband lol....

I list some of my other ideas as they come to me ;p

I would ask your hubby to make you a 'home video.' Dont watch it untill you are in labor and laying in the hospital. Tell him that it will help you feel as if he is there, have him say things that will make you think of him and how excited the 2 of you are about the new baby.

Take some photos of the 2 of you together and of just him. Every night he is away, sit and tell the new baby how great daddy is and how much he will love the 2 of you when he finally gets to come home. This will help you have time to get to think about your great hubby, bonding time with the baby, and to intorduce daddy to the baby.

I would also have daddy buy baby a suffed animal or whatnot and spay it lightly with the smell of daddy, this will help baby pick up on him before ever meeting him.

Lastly, you should keep a note book full of writings to daddy. Dont tell him about your book, give it to him as a gift. Write about your day with baby, the things you did together, every think you think daddy would want to see or hear about. You could even put in a photo every week to show how much baby has grown. This will help make daddy feel like even though he wasnt there he still gets to experience every bit of babys life by seeing it through your eyes.

Stay strong, your baby and hubby need you. Sounds like you have great friends who will be there for everything. Share with them how bad you feel about not having hubby beside you, Im sure they will be able to lighten the mood.

Congrats on the baby and for having a great hubby who is willing to give you everything he can in life. Best of luck