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I just left the doctor's office. My due date is December 22nd and since I am in graduate school, I have my baby over the Christmas break and I am going back to school on January 11th.
She scolded me for returning back to school and saying that I should stay home instead of having my parents come and baby-sit. She also suggested that I hire a personal Nanny a few hours daily and she told me if I couldn't afford it maybe I should consider adoption. I am in an accelerated program and I am getting this degree to better myself for my child as well as myself that we have a stable future. I felt horrible leaving my doctor's office and feel like I am a bad mother already. I don't go to the doctors office to be judged. I really don't like my doctor anymore. Advice? Posted on 11/02/09, 04:11 pm |
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Omg, do not listen to this dr. We all carry enough guilt on our decisions about everything. Can you find another dr? I know it is late but honestly I would have slapped him. 
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The sad part is that my doctor is a female. I was wondering if it would be best if I just stuck it out with her or find another doctor in the area.
I just really don't like her and I am just so upset and she just added to my already mounting stress
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I am in shock! I can not believe a Dr would say those things to you! You are not a bad mother for going back and getting your schooling! It is not like you are leaving your baby with strangers! I would see if I could change Dr’s or talk to this one about how inappropriate you felt that was! She said you need to consider adoption!?!?! WOW!
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I would look for another dr. You need support not aggravation. Imagine during labor? You still have enough time to look for someone else
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i would call a conference with your doc and let him/her know that their opinion is that, an opinion. then ask if they will pay for the nanny.
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Your doctor is there to provide you with medical advice. She has no right to comment on your personal decisions. The only reason she would have a right to comment on you returning to school is if she felt there was a medical reason why this wouldn't be in your best interest. It certaintly does not seem like this is the case. Most certaintly it is not appropriate for her to suggest that you should place your child for adoption. You should have a doctor that you can trust and feel supported by. I would find another doctor.
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honestly i would probably write a nasty letter to the head of the practice and then switch drs. you are in a very difficult position and are trying to make the best decisions for you and your baby. if anything you should be commended for your thrive to do the best for both of you. i am appauled at the fact that your doctor would say such horrible things..the isno way in hell that i would be going back there EVER!!!
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Switch doctors, you should not be paying someone to make you feel like crap.
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I cannot believe the doctor did that. It was very unproffesional and unethical. I would talk with her about what was said. Maybe she was having a bad day or didn't mean what it sounded like what she said. Just stick it out though. You don't have that much longer. You can also file a report with whatever organization she works for.
I attended college with my first son and I was on the dean's list. My parents helped me. I finished and now I am in the graduate program. I also hold a teaching license. You can do it! Good luck, and you know what you can do in your heart.
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OMG! How dare she tell you to think about adoption if you couldn't afford a professional nanny!
It is your choice to go back to school to further yourself, that is not for her to get involved with, your baby will be looked after by people who will take such good care. You are not the first mother to bring up a child while schooling and you will definately not be the last. Hun please do not listen to these rude remarks from someone who should know better. Is there any way you can change your doc? You need to feel comforted by your doc...not belittled by them. x
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