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Finding Out The Gender
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Hello! Okay, ever since the last ultrasound where they told me they know the sex, ive wanted to find out what he/she is! I told myself if I ever get pregnant I'll wait for the surprise, but it's harder then I thought! I am kind of tired of all the yellow and green clothing, there is only so much you can get, plus I'm getting the pressure from the daddy and his family, who are really hoping it's a boy. If I waitt o find out it'll give me something to push for and I kind of like telling people I'm going to wait to find out. All of the guessing games and myths of hanging low and rosy cheeks. If I find out it'll feel like half of the surprise is over I'll know what I have before I have it. I think about it every day just calling my doctor and asking her what the sex of our baby is and then we can really plan the cothing and the shower and share the big surprise, plus it'll make it easier to adjust and prepare for him/her if we find out ahead.
I am not sure what I should do, my mom wants me to wait, his family wants me to find out, my friends and co-workers are mixed opinions, I know it's my decision but I am having a hard time deciding! Oh an the other thing is if I dont find out, should I let the father find out? Some are saying yes it's cruel to keep it from him and atleast he can get some gender specific thing without me knowing so were prepared, on the other hand what if he leaks the news and it gets to me? I will never forget it. Posted on 10/08/09, 10:10 pm |
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This is what my cousin did. She found out the gender but hid it from everybody else but her husband because she didn't want them to know. That is a really tough question and it all depends on you as to what you do... 
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I think you should do whatever you want. don't worry about other people and what they want. I thought about waiting to find out, but my husband is dying to know and I knew that once he knows, it wouldn't be a secret from me for long, so we are going to find out. I wish he didn't want to know though so we could wait. It is the biggest surprise of our lives. If you want to wait, go for it. To keep your mind off of it, ask for gift cards instead of loads of yellow and green clothing...that way you can go shopping after the baby is born and load up on pink or blue...or tell people to wait til you have him/her to buy you those cute clothes. They will be happy to wait and shop for you once they know team pink or team blue. It will also be a lot of fun the further you get to hear the guessing. Start a running poll with friends and family that way the right group will have bragging rights once the baby gets here. I do think if you decide not to find out, the father doesn't get to know either. I just think there is no way him or his family would be able to keep it quiet without spilling the truth to you. good luck!!1
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I am also having this debate with my other half as we are having our gender/anomoly scan on Oct 19th.
Other half wants to find out what he/she is and I am struggling to come to a decision.
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do what you want. we found out, our cousins havent- we will know soon! we did everything (nursery, bedding) neutral so that it's ready for the next baby. another option depending on your due date: friends of ours are having the results put in an envelope and are giving it to a trusted family member. they will open the results together Christmas morning.
good luck!
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I found out the sex of my daughter, and honestly think it was the best decision I could have made at the time. I would make it again given the choice. However, I have NO intention whatsoever of finding out the sex of this baby :) And it is the right decision this time around...
Really it all depends on how well you cope with surprises, and how much you prefer to plan! I would write a list of pros and cons with all the outcomes. What are you hoping to do if you do find out? And how disappointed do you think you will be for not leaving it until the day? If you are the type of person to prefer the surprise and worry about buying clothes, wraps etc in boy/girl colours later, then it seems logical to wait until you birth your baby. If you are going to spend the rest of the pregnancy wishing you could organise more things for the baby based on gender, it might be worth finding out. Whatever is going to give you the MOST amount of enjoyment!!!! :)
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