Pregnancy Support Group

*hug* I'm sorry you're having a rough time... pregnancy takes a toll on relationships and your moods... my relationship has suffered some with my hubby, who just turned 21, is excited about being 21.... so that has caused some bad fights and my emotions haven't helped matters either, but if a relationship is strong enough it will weather this storm.
But when it comes down to it, YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU. Sit him down and talk to him, and see where his priorities are, put it all on the table, and then decide if you think it is healthy for you to be in that relationship or not. You also have to do what is right for your baby... he needs to have his heart in this.
Lean on friends and family, and understand we are here for you, and want to see you happy. I don't know the guy so I can't judge him, but it does sound like he has some issues he needs to work out.

Debbie

First off, I just want to say you are definitely not alone! many times throughout my pregnancy up until present 22 weeks, i have felt the same way. when i found out i was pregnant, we were at a point in our relationship where things were not going well, as they usually dont. i was torn on what to do, seeing how i always told myself abortion is not an option (different circumstances call for abortion). i was told by my best friend who was in a similar situation, pregnant as well, that you cannot base your decision on somebody else's actions. i have felt alone many times, but keep reminding myself that i cannot control the actions of others and as long as i know i will be the best mother i can be, i've done all i can do. i have began to look forward to an addition in my life, it gives your life a whole new focus. please know there are others out there who know how you feel.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.
Being pregnant is a time where you need as MUCH support as possible. I can understand a little bit about where you're coming from. My boyfriend is 21 and he had A LOT of growing up to do when we found out I was pregnant. He messed up big a couple weeks ago, but i think we've grown from it a little bit. What your boyfriend needs to realize is that it isnt just on you, its on him too. He needs to step up to the plate, it took the both of you to make a baby, you didnt just fertilize your own egg.

It takes a lot of getting used to knowing that you're going to have a baby and have someone depend on you for the rest of your life, but thats part of growing up. He needs to man up and be supportive instead of running away like a coward.

Ellen, you and your baby will make it through this hard time. When you go to your check-up tomorrow, maybe you can ask your Dr. if they have any resources out there--like a pregnancy support group. A network of other young pregnant women that you could talk to. Maybe even a hotline. I know that sounds lame, but it will help you just to vent and talk to other women. Hang in there. Things will work out. ((hugs))

That's really hard to go through. Try to figure out whether the ignoring is a temporary thing (inexcusable though it is) or a more permanent theme. Talk to him, but pay more attention to his actions than his words. If you cannot trust him long term, try to find support in other ways - family, friends, support groups for single mothers.

Hope things work out for you.

I'm sorry you're going through this. My husband's 30, and more often than not, he behaves as though he were still a bachelor. Our situation's are a bit different, but the one thing I can tell you is that you need to stay STRONG for you and your baby. As it grows inside of you, your belly gets bigger and you start to feel your baby's movements, your love for it will grow stronger than you can ever imagine. You will feel that you want, will and can do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING to protect it. I am now 7 !/2 mos, and am looking very forward to holding my daugther in a couple of months. Knowing that I had/have a living being inside of me, relying on me to be strong for her, kept me strong...I almost divorced my husband when I was about 2mos preg, but we have since tried to reconcile, and are still working at it, 5mos later. But, that's another story.
As others have stated, you did not get pregnant on your own. If your boyfriend cannot be supportive and help you through this, then you should let him go. I know that that's easier said than done-seeing as folks have told me the same thing about my husband. You alone can make the decision whether to tough this out by yourself while remaining with him, or to do it on your own ACTUALLY without the guy. Or, hopefully, you remain with him and he's there for you 100%. Either way, lean on your friends and family, and of course, others here. Perhaps your boyfriend will eventually see the light and come through for you-and if he does, then I'm sure all of us here will be happy for you. And if he turns out to be a coward, then you and your child will be better off without him. You need someone who will understand, or at least try to, what you are going through, be there for you emotionally as well as physically. As you progress in your pregancy, your body will change. Along with that will come emotional changes. You need someone who will be rock solid for you.
You do not sound pathetic or selfish at all. If you were, then believe me, the rest of us pregnant women would be too!
You're almost done with school-hang in there and stick with it. Afterwards, you'll be glad you did. Imagine the pride and sense of accomplishment you'll have knowing that you were able to finish school with everything's that's happened to you recently/ongoing!!!
Remember: bottom line, you need to do what's right for you and your baby. Put your cards on the table and ask your boyfriend to do the same. Tell him what you need and want from him, and give him some time to think about it. If he can give you what you need and is willing to do so, long-term, then hurray! If not, you need to cut your losses and move on for your and your baby's sake.