What is Pre-menstrual Syndrome PMS

Premenstrual Stress Syndrome (PMS, also called Premenstrual Stress, Premenstrual Tension, PMT, Premenstrual Syndrome, Periodic Mood Swing) is stress which is a physical symptom pri...

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That is what my husband asks me every month around that time. It starts a day before my period begins and lasts for about 3 days average. I am 37, have my tubes tied and my periods and PMS is getting worse. My doctor put me on birth control pills for the heavy bleeding and because they found a cyst on my ovary. I have no other females to ask about these things, my mother was killed in a car accident about 6 yrs ago. So my husband says "you've been having a period for years now, aren't you used to it by now?" But no....should I be? Should I be able to control my emotions and feelings? Is there something wrong with me? Help???
Posted on 07/16/09, 07:07 pm
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Reply #1 - 07/27/09  2:01am
" Check what birth control pills you are on. Get your baseline hormones checked. A woman in her 30's should get her hormones checked once a year because people can start to go through premenopause in their 30's. Check if your estrogen is high if it is switch to a birth control pill that is higher in progesterone. I had my period for 8 days and it would be heavy for days and days. I got my hormone levels checked and got put on progesterone and now my period is 3 days long. It was a 18 year battle for me (starting when I was 11) Don't let the doctors tell you that they know nothing about hormones and won't test you. Tell your husband that no amount of practice helps and you can't get used to having your period. Then next time he stubs his toe tell him he has been feeling pain for all the years he has been alive can't he control it by now. You can't control your emotions and feelings while having your period, what you can control is the stress you feel. Don't plan as much stuff around the PMS times tell your husband you need extra room these times have it marked on the calendar. "
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Reply #2 - 07/29/09  4:48pm
" I lose complete control when I pms. For 2 weeks on and off it is a battle to keep my emotions in check, I am always on damage control with my sons father. It's horrible because I know I am not that person. I have just joined this site and really hope to find some coping methods.
Good Luck "
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Reply #3 - 08/22/09  6:45pm
" after i had my tubes tied my periods were horrible.if they told me that before i had it done ,i never would have.the bleeding was heavy and cramps unbearable,not to mention my period went from three days to seven.men do not understand at all what we go through,hell we dont even understand it....i just turned forty and i am haveing trouble copeing physically and emotionally when its my time...you are not alone and nothing is wrong with you...many hugs xoxoxo "
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Reply #4 - 08/27/09  5:34pm
" I can't put it in a few words how normal it is to feel the way you do, and how ignorant men usually are in this matters. My periods last up to 8 days now that I am 45 and in the past they lasted even longer. Needless to say how I feel and react during PMS and during periods. I was advised by a traditional Chinese Therapist to avoid people as much as I can during that time and do as little as possible until the "storm" is over. Rest is essential but often impossible, thence our reaction, the sooner husbands understand it the better!
Love and sympathy, E, "
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Reply #5 - 09/05/09  8:53pm
" That's not fair for your husband to think you can be used to it by now. Emotions and stuff wouldn't exist if it weren't for the hormones doing their things and telling your brain how you feel. During your period, you're emotional because of the hormonal changes that go along with your period, so, uh, hello, what does he think you're supposed to be feeling like when your body's making hormones that are telling your brain that you're wicked sad? Duh...! "

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