What is Post Partum Depression
Postpartum depression (also postnatal depression) is a form of major depression which can affect women, and less frequently men, after childbirth. It is widely considered to be tre...
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I have a 2 year old daughter. And i just had a baby boy a month ago. I love my son...i think he is so adorable and i get that warm fuzzy feeling when i hold him...i can just eat him up!
But this is not the case for my daughter. I just feel like i'm watching someone elses annoying kid all the time! She is so annoying. She doesn't talk, and it frustrates me. She throws tantrums and whines and is loud. But even when she is being good and doing something cute, i don't get that same feeling i use to get before i had my son. I look at her like she is someone else's annoying kid. I thought before i had my son that i wouldn't be able to love him like i love her...but it is the opposite. I want to love them both! any suggestions?? Posted on 09/06/09, 12:09 pm |
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I think you need to talk to your doctor about the feelings you are having.Are you sad?Angry?Feeling down? 
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I often feel the same about my daughter. I don't have another child but a small suggestion to you could be think of her in terms that she's getting older and you have to love her for new reasons. Stay positive and try to spend equal time with her when ever you can. This is the age you can start teaching her things too like songs, sign language and dance moves. You just have to find new fun and love for her since she's no longer the baby. I hope this helped a little.
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I'm sorry you are feeling this way.
I like carmanD's response below and agree with her suggestions. Your daughter may be acting out too because she doesn't feel connected perhaps she senses how you feel. You need to take care of this immediately -children are precious gifts an how we shape them in their early years has a profound impact on them later on. You definitely don't want to get into having a "favorite" child. Please please please get some help now -for your sake and for your children's sake. I say this out of love and concern -I don't mean to be harsh. Maybe baby steps here too -perhaps you could schedule some alone time with your little girl -she may be jealous of her little brother with such a close age to him (it is probably a very hard adjustment for her). Get to know her and show her you love her. You are probably exhuasted too -I just have one child and he is 15 months and this is the hardest job I've ever had (and I thought corporate America was bad)...I think you need some "mommy" time and some time alone with your daughter... Good luck -please let us know how you are doing...we are here for you!
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PS I just realized that you have a ONE MONTH old son -I didn't catch that somehow at this early hour...my apologies.
I think it is probably a combination of exhaustion and the demands that your two year old is putting on you while you are in this fragile state (I'm guessing little to now sleep, a demanding infant, no time for yourself, etc.). Please seek out help wherever you can -perhaps some friends can pitch in and help with babysitting so you can get some rest or if you have any family around...it is ok to ask for help...you have a lot on your plate...
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