What is Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a term for certain psychological consequences of exposure to, or confrontation with, stressful experiences that the person experiences as h...
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Hi! I've suffered with PTSD for a long while and I'm married. But my husband gives me no support whatsoever. In fact he's sometimes a catalyst to bring on bad dreams. I also have given up finding a doctor to talk to. Why do they just sit there saying nothing. I actually had a doctor say to me 'why don't you just forget about it'. I thought...who is this person! I'm looking for answers and I'm looking for support and nothings happening. You would think if a doctor is going to hang up a shingle advertising their expertise in this area they would have answers or helpful information wouldn't you? They have had no problem taking my money at all. I'm just frustrated with this. This problem has been around a long time; there's no excuse for a doctor saying "I don't know".
Posted on 11/01/09, 01:11 am |
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Wistala,
Compliments to your husband! I pray that, if ever I can marry and I still hope I may someday...that I find one as supportive as you described yours. And you're so very correct. It doesn't take a degree in psychology or in rocket science to be supportive to someone with PTSD. What compliment you are to each other. 
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Scotr,
I had the same problem with my WIFE... and yes, while she is and was from Venus and empathetic and all that... she didn't get it and didn't get that she didn't get it. I heard from her time and time again to "just get over it". It has come very close to breaking us up several times. Finaly, we were watching TV one night and there was a scene that we BOTH reacted immediately to, out loud and in unison we said something.... but completely the opposite response. Her jaw dropped both at my reaction and the difference in our thinking, but it worked as her "Ah-hah" experience. Now she knows she doesn't understand, but can empathize, and understands that she doesn't really "get it". Phlox, You're right that it doesn't take a rocket scientist to be supportive of someone with PTSD, but it's hard to be supportive of something we fear, and we often fear what we cannot understand. Wistala, Insightful and helpful as always. I appreciate that link!!!! OneWanderer, Also wonderfully insightful... maybe I'm the exception that proves the rule? (the husband with the formerly non-supportive wife?). I'd also like to add that mindfulness can be a great tool, and is in my coping tool-chest as well... although I find it through Zen philosophy and meditation (I must note... not the Zen-Buddhist religion, not that I'm anti Buddhist mind you, but it's not my choice in spirituality). I will say that it's "A" tool... not "THE" tool for everyone. As you mentioned your favorite book on mindfulness, I'll add my suggestion for you and others as well: "Zen and the Art of Archery". Yeah... doesn't really sound like a book for PTSD sufferers, but it IS a great book on the practice of mindfulness and being in the moment; as you say... a great tool for those of us with PTSD. Take care all! D.
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