What is Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a term for certain psychological consequences of exposure to, or confrontation with, stressful experiences that the person experiences as h...
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I quit my Therapist, had two freakin sessions with her and I am back to having nobody again. I just got to thinking about my therapeutic relationship with her and I just don't have one. I know I've only had two appointments with her and maybe some of you are thinking I should of given her more of a chance, but I know me and I know that if I don't click with my Therapist after at least the second session; then I'm not going to. I wasn't going to get anywhere, lying to her and not opening up to her about what was really going on in my life. That my life wasn't all peaches and cream, that I'm really struggling. She seriously didn't see through my lies, she thought I was fine; when I'd say I was doing fine. I truthfully don't think she liked me, to be honest with you guys. She got a little irritated with me, on more than one occasion and I am not going to be treated that way. I got treated badly my entire life and I'm not going to be talked down to by someone I'm paying to help me. I was actually finding myself feeling worse, when I knew I had an appointment coming up with her. So, anyway. I talked with the receptionist and he said to call back this morning and talk to this lady and see about switching Therapists. I'm scared I'm going to piss off my previous Therapist, I'm afraid she's going to call me and try to get me to come back or yell at me like I've had another Therapists do to me. There's this other Therapist there, that I have seen before; about 7 or so years ago and I clicked with her. I want to see her so badly, because I felt so comfortable with her. I'm just tired of switching all the time, I just want to settle down with one Therapist and get the help I need. I just want some peace in my life, that's all!
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hope you get the therapist you deserve,i wouldnt let any therapist shout at me,thats no help at all! Stick too your guns x x 
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I do hope that you find a good therapist. I can't believe that you have had therapists yell at you. If it didn't click with this one, try another and don't beat yourself up. Don't worry about pissing off the therapist because you're moving on to somebody else. You need to find one that helps you, getting the help you need is what the therapist is for, not keeping a therapist happy. Keep going forward.
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If a therapist is going to aid you in healing, you HAVE to feel comfortable talking to him or her, and he/she has to be able to understand where you are coming from. To be honest, there is probably not a single therapist out there who has knowledge in every type of disorder and has the personality that can "click" with anybody. Don't beat yourself up about it. If she calls you, just tell her that you had seen the other therapist before and felt more comfortable with her, since you didn't have to go all the way back to square one.
Yes, the wrong therapist can run counter to your healing, so it is important to find one that is well versed in trauma recovery, your specific symptoms AND one that you feel comfortable talking to. Sometimes a person may be the best person in the world to help you deal with your specific trauma, but something about that person actually triggers you to the point that you cannot relate to them at all. I am fortunate that I have an easy time relating to most people. I have had two different therapists, and the first one was a good "first one," as she was the one who referred me for diagnosis and realized that I was probably dealing with PTSD, however, she was too much of a "generalist" to take me very far. My second therapist dealt mostly with abuse victims, PTSD and substance abuse and her preferred method of therapy for me was cognitive processing therapy. This was a combination that was a godsend for me and at a time that I needed it desparately. She has recently moved to another town, so I am facing starting therapy with a new therapist, and I have more than just a little anxiety about it, as I know and understand how important it is for me and my healing.
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You all have no idea how much your inputs have meant to me, it's really helped me to realize that maybe I'm being too harsh; that maybe I should give it some time and give my Therapist a little more time and that I should try a little harder in Therapy. I have only had two sessions with her and you guys are right, if I'm not open and honest with her; how can she help me. She can't read my mind! Someone from the clinic is supposed to call me today, to talk with me about switching to another Therapist. But I'm just going to talk to her about sticking with the one I have and that if it doesn't work out for me, that if I'm still not able to open up and share with her; if I could eventually switch back to the Therapist I used to see a long time ago. I just don't want to hurt the Therapist I have now, just because she's a Therapist; doesn't mean she doesn't have feelings. I don't want her to think I hate her, even though I don't think she likes me too well. Anyway, I'll try and make it work; even though for some reason I'm just not being able to share things with her. But maybe in time, it'll come!
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IMHO a "Good" therapist would have easily recognised you not being totally open with her. There are "Signals" that we cannot hide no matter how hard we try.
Ultimately, it's about YOU and if you don't feel totally comfortable with your therapist then move on until you find one that you feel you can trust and really open up to. it may seem a long haul but it will pay dividends in the long run. I know from experience that there are 'some' "Therapists" out there who are not worth wasting your breath on. Good luck x
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it takes a few times to find someone you click with. don't give up. I tried a few before I found one I was comfortable with. They realise this and don't get offended
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