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my boyfriend is running me through the emotional wringer, acting sweet, supportive and lovin for days upon end and then suddenly turning cold, avoiding me, drinking and blaming me for the self destructive behaviour, disregarding my feelings.
waiting to say a negative destructive comment i can't breath i cant'get any Posted on 09/19/09, 03:09 am |
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give him the boot! 
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well it kinda embarrasses me how much i have said but then it has been so good to have somewhere to go with my feelings.
my bf has decided to try to go to rehab and is going to his counsellor and back to aa so i'm relieved. i'm gonna concentrate on me tho
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tamimac,
If you are embarassed by what you have said about you BF then you know that the way he has treated you is wrong. He has emotionally abused you. I agree with meqaq10..give him the boot. I speak this from personal experience. You do not need that type of person in your life..it is not conducive to taking care of yourself and your own healing. You need to look after your own own best interests.
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tamimac,
Sorry you are having this experience with your boyfriend. How frustrated you seem! I'm going to be the devil's advocate, it seems. (devilish grin). You have a conflict. How do you normally deal with conflicts? Do you have a commitment to this man? How long have you been in the relationship? Do you see a pattern here? Do you value the relationship? How have you dealt with conflicts with him previously? Can you talk to him?
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I don't think that "deep-sixing" is always a good solution. Always depends.
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What I'm trying to say is...
"Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater." It may be helpful for you to step back and to discern how much of the triggering is your stuff (PTSD or what have you) and how much of it is his stuff (behavior). Is it the drinking that causes this shift? I have known several people who did this very thing when they were drinking. If so, that would be his stuff. Does he have a drinking problem? If so, what would you suggest to anyone else who was in a similar situation? Just trying to be helpful here. How is his behavior "triggering" you?
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tamimac,
Just now seen your subsequent post. So sorry. I'm noodle brains. Relieved for you that he has decided to go to rehab. That's excellent! Also like how your own mindset shifted. Sometimes (but not always)... When we take care of ourselves, others in our lives learn from it how to take care of themselves. To me, this is a compliment to you! As for the disclosure, no worries. We all need a safe place to be ourselves without reprisal or judgment. Keep it anonymous, and it will remain safe for the purpose intended (wink) Good wishes for you and your special other person. I'm glad to see commitment demonstrated.
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