What is Physical Emotional Abuse
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) or is unlawful or wrongful....
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I finally took the final step...hopefully. I have left him many times, I live by myself with my daughter. Still I would see him and contact him and answer his calls for help
. He has lost his job, he starts new one tomorrow. Our dog had to be put to sleep, I was there to comfort his loss and even when he asked I told him that things were not changing. I listened to him cry and tell me not to abandon him now when he needs me so much and he loves me so much. I heard him when he asked me to marry him again, and politely told him no way in hell. I heard him complain about money and lack of, and I tried my best to ease my guilt by making sure he had food and necessities. He was worried about whether he had the money for his house payment, and I told him I had none. He managed to con a married woman he has only known from on line out of $750. Thank was the end. I see what he really is and how he uses my generosity against me. How he plays on my emotions, empathy and nurturing to better himself at my expense. I finally sent him the letters I had written and never sent. I told him to not call anymore, or contact. I know I will be blamed for upsetting him on his first day at a new job. There was never a good time, there was always something and some reason why I would be blamed. I e-mailed him the letter and asked him not to ever bother me again. I had to explain myself, I have no idea why since he will never understand. I know now that he will be taken care of no matter what. He is a survivor and no matter how many times he says he will kill himself without me...it is a lie. Wish me luck, say a little prayer for me that I keep up the strength. Posted on 11/08/09, 10:11 am |
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Keep it up. It is by far the best decision to make for yourself. I know too well the pleading for money, and the sad pathetic tone that went with it...It was never in my nature to watch someone suffer I have always given away more than I should have to anyone. But when you love them its a no brainer that you will give what you can. Don't feel guilty. Your right there is never a good time to tell them, they always find a reason why it was our fault, and WE upset them. My ex used to say that too.
I used to think mine was a survivor too then I realized......NO, he is an opportunist, a manipulator, and a liar. He will bleed anyone for what he wants...there is a difference between a survivor and these guys.... Stay strong :) 
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Oh Lavender! I am so proud of you! You're cutting loose the dead weight you've been carrying around on your back!
He will try to make you feel guilty and bring you back around into his sick circle of insanity, but you are stronger than to fall for that. You are really doing it. You see what he is and how he uses you to better himself...while all the while dragging you further and further down, emotoionally, mentally, and financially! I cannot express how amazingly proud I am of you. If I was there with you I would give you a HUGE hug! Stay strong girlfriend! I believe in you!!! Much love and Big hugs! Katt
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Lavendar,
I wish you all the luck in the world. Hopefully this final break will allow you to move forward and make something positive happen in you and your daughters life. Good for you for taking back your life. All the hugs in the world to you. Keep us posted.
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I have nothing more to say than, congratulations and stay strong. We are proud of you, and you ought to be immensely proud of yourself - only you know just how hard it was, so be proud, not guilty.
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Yes, yes, YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good work. Stay strong. Stay clear. Be well.
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Good for you, lavender!!!
Just a word of caution: prepare yourself for a full frontal assault, just in case. By this I mean bombarding you with emails, calls, etc. He may up the ante and play the victim, or dish out more guilt...don't fall for it. Having NC will give you time to think without his 'noise' in the background, and will give you some much needed clarity. Hugs!
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