Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

So it's been three weeks since I had contact, 4 since I saw him. I have posted before about the last access visit where, after I told him I was still afraid of him, he "hugged" me. I pulled away, he did not let go. I told him it was unwelcome, he said he understood why, but did not let go. I felt paralysed, terrified. All the fears, all the past came back. I've barely slept since, the nightmares have returned, etc.

In the meantime, he has also sabotaged the neutral supervised access system I had set up, which would give him access visits, supervised, without me having to see him. I won't let him have unsupervised access for a lot of reasons, including but not only the abuse.

So my lawyer writes to his, a long letter setting out all the reasons I will not be meeting him for access visits again, and requesting a response to other issues, which had been promised a week earlier.

So his lawyer doesn't reply, and tonight I get an email just saying "I would like to see my son so can you tell me what the real reason for this continued procrastination is?"

It's just back on the merry go round. It doesn't matter how clearly you set it out, if it's not what they want to hear, they ask the question again, as if you'd never given an answer at all. Soooooooooo frustrating. I am so sick of the merry go round.
Posted on 11/07/09, 09:11 am