Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

I hate all the Mrs-Know -it-all's too, i hate the ones who were previouslly jealous at the attention he once gave, the flowers the holidays all now lovingly gloating at your pain, when its only you who knows the injustice of that pain. I also hate the idiots who try to mock your single situation because you had the strength to walk away, when they're trying to rub your nose in it about the wonderful relationship they have when in fact i wouldn't be seen dead with their men.

I ony hate what he did to me. The others who don't understand? Them I envy. I wish I didn't understand either.

But yeah ... it does get annoying when people tell you either what you already know, or what you already know is so wrong. I was very lucky - I had supportive friends and family who let me do things in my own time - supported me through the "I have to make it work" stage, and through the "it's never going to work" stage.

I hate the people in my town who ask me how my ex-husband is doing, as if we are normal, divorced folk who have a semblance of a healthy relationship post split. My answer to how he is, "I don't really know, we don't talk."

Yes, I hated that too. When people who didn't know, and never realized that abusive relationships exist, would say upon finding out that I left him, "Good for you! I hope you find happiness." Or some other innocuous thing. As if I just up and left because I decided I didn't like him anymore....Or who would say, I hope you can be civil, he's obviously a good father. Not knowing how he emotionally and verbally would beat on my son....

The problem is they have no clue, and we dont feel like or can't educate them at that moment. So, we have to swallow it, and smile, and leave it alone. It's hard to walk away without saying, he's an abusive bastard, and if I can get my son away from him I will before he wrecks his life too....

I hate it when they say why are you not moving on? You made your choice. Get a life. I say I have a life. I am moving on. I made a choice to leave an abuser. This is my time, I will spend it doing what I could not do in the marriage. I spend it growing.

Wow ........I totally agree w/ Hockey......thank you Lord Jesus....my ex only has contact with his sons now when it is their decision to engage......people don't nnderstand that an abuser is NOT a good father.....only when other eyes are watching to they become "SuperDad". And, IMHO, I am in the same place as Tame.....I am moving on..... quite happily thank you..... and I DON'T NEED A MAN IN MY LIFE TO BE HAPPY!!! Hmmmmmmmmmmmm, guess I needed to vent that, huh??? ROTFLMAO!! Cindi

I hate it when his brother and sister, and some of his friends, say that they don't think the situation was "bad enough" for me to leave.

Ummmm...ok. They weren't coming home to a drunk, angry mess everyday and walking on eggshells to not piss him off.

They didn't understand that everything they liked or wanted to do was met with enthusiasm and agreement with him....whereas almost everything I liked or wanted to do was met with all the reasons why I was wrong for liking them.

He was two-faced. Perfectly logical and reasonable on the outside, and perfectly controlling only to me.

His sister telling me "he was hurt, that is why he does that". Right, because all the years he emotionally abused me, were my fault.

when all MY relatives telling me to reconcile with him, because it will be better for everyone.......

When people say in regards to our divorce "well I always liked him". I think...why the hell didn't you marry him then or have your sister or wife marry him??????????