Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Tonight I went out had a few errands to do. walked into a coffee shop here after having what was a great day with the kids and the gran-baby. I walked smack into my ex. Right at the counter after saying "large double double please" He ads..."one for me too" I didn't even need to turn around. I knew. Like they say when there's an other worldly spirit in your presence the hair on the back of your neck stands up...So it does when he comes along. I always knew he wasn't natural. Nobody this evil can be. Anyhow....

He says I need to talk with you please. I have been trying to reach you, give me one minute, just one and I swear I'll leave you be. The girl returns with the coffee and smiles like this is somehow romantic. She actually says,...oh what harm can it do...in some 20 something, perky, nieve tone...I said...you date him, then call me I'll take you with me to therapy! This stops her cold but spurs him, he says between gritted teeth,..ONE MINUTE! So i figure to avoid a scene one minute, i go to a table and sit, and say GO..he says nothing, I said go again. CLOCKS TICKING!

He starts.....

You look great!
I have missed you so much!
I miss everything talking, laughing..etc..

(( Enter the vibrating cell phone as the text messages roll in))

he stops reads, replies. I catch a glimpse of the name...its the girl he met while away...the next victim, the poor thing.

I sit and look ta him, he actually smiles, his most endearing, pleading smile. Next message rolls in. He reads, this time no reply he stuffs it back in his pocket. I know about this woman since we have mutual friends. the wife he was trying to manipulate before he left ditched him the day he returned. She also knows about this woman.

I have said nothing since the CLOCKS TICKING remark..he reaches to touch my hand across the table...reallllllllllllllly pullin out the stops..
I move and lean back in the chair and in my best sarcastic grin I say,.you have not changed one bit, you have evolved into a bigger liar, cheater, and player than before. You sit and plead to me here, while she texts you there, and you answer right here in my presence. I sigh, and then tell him the game bores me,..he bores me,..I can't even muster up the energy to be insulted that would text her in front of me. He says nothing, he looks blank which is what he does when he cant think fast enough...I stand he says no please stay a bit..I said no, I have a full day tomorrow, and I really have no interest talking to you, talk to her. your her vice now, not mine.

He says don't you miss me?
I said; I NEVER KNEW YOU.

& I walked out.

My point is this. For anyone who asks if the Narcissist will change...the answer is NO. he will not,...He will evolve into a more brazen, self loathing, grandios version of himself. I have just seen this with my own eyes. NEW eyes, I finally seen him tonight like I have never seen him before.

It does no longer pain me to see him. I was surprised. Greatfully I am numb. I feel nothing.
Posted on 11/05/09, 10:11 pm