What is Physical Emotional Abuse
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) or is unlawful or wrongful....
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Hi - new to the site and just getting to know what to do......so please bare with me :)
I seem to attract the guys they like to give lots of emotional abuse......take my ex........he seemed to always point out the bad in me.......said if I was more this or that things would be better between but since I am that way that is why we will never get married....blah blah blah....... I don't know - I'm trying to understand why people have to be so mean and put others down - it's mean and hurtful Posted on 11/03/09, 06:11 pm |
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He does it because putting you down makes him feel better about himself. The same reason that kids bully each aother - that is his maturity level. 
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I agree with rcr. I think abusers enjoy putting their significant others down, and I do think it helps them (as twisted as it sounds) to feel better about themselves. If they can get you to feel bad, doubt yourself, get you confused, etc., etc., it is much easier for them to manipulate you, and in doing so, exert power and control over you. Obviously, that's not love, but they will try to package it as such.
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some days I hate him and others I feel sorry for him and then I think I could have done something better to make things better.....lol I know the last one is stupidish.....I mean there was nothing and is nothing I can do. I just need to move on and go to better :) easier said than done
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It is easier said than done, BUT....nothing worth having comes easy..and your life is worth having.
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Atleast you realize that you need to move on. Not everyone is lucky to see that as an option. No one deserves to be put down or be emotionally abused under any circumstance. You as does every woman on here deserve the best. I too am working on getting out of an emotionally abusive relationship. Some days are harder than others, but I know now that i do not need a man to make me happy and when I finally do meet someone, they will treat me with the utmost respect that I know I deserve and you will find someone like that too, when it is meant to be.
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omg... men who say "you should be more"... yuck! that IS really mean! My ex did that when he told me that he'd changed his mind about marrying me.
And when I look back, I think it was because he was projecting onto me all of his dissatisfaction with life and himself. Because some of the things he said were just not true to my mind. To be honest, I don't think we were right for each other. I know now that you can LOVE someone but that isn't enough for a healthy relationship.
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martina - I was thinking that he was projecting onto me because some of the things were stuff he was dealing with.......I just should have known not to go out with him. should not have lived with him and put up with all I did for all those months.......he had so many issues and I just thought - well it doesn't matter.......he is gone and I am better off
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