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Or you could call the police and inform them that he's not obeying a court order and he can get in a lot of trouble.

Call your attorney immediately. It's one thing to nicley ask if it's okay that he keep them one more day, and be prepared for whatever answer you give, than to act like an a$$ and deny things that are legally in place, demanding, intimidating you, and going against your wishes.

Once again, he's breaking down your boundaries. With N's, you've got to strictly enforce those or they'll walk all over them.

sigh... Reading these give me glimpses of what to come.

We are just getting going in mediation, and I'm beginning to have my serious doubts. He wants to keep all assets whether they are legally community property or not... He's acting like a 2 year old about it all. he's accusing me of trying to ruin him and take all that he's worked so hard for. Wah wah. but, bottom line, he's already told me that he doesn't give a damn what the law says. He wants what he wants.

It's called "contempt of court". Document it and let your lawyer(s) know. If you are really pissed you can have him hit with contempt the first time he does it. If the judge has signed it already it is law whether he signed it or not.
This is why I HATE mediation.
If one party is used to running everyone over, Mediation doesn't work.

Twirlergirl,
I totally agree, mediation is not a good idea with these types.

What calm said. Tell your attorney before the fight over it and get advice about the best way to deal with this legally. I understand you not wanting another fight in front of the boys, but you cannot let him just trample over your rights either.

As for the "I never signed anything" ... ah yes, oh so familiar. I also went through mediation, we barely agreed anything - mainly because I didn't just agree to what he wanted. We did agree a few things though. Of course, not the same things he now SAYS we agreed. When it suits him, we reached all manner of agreements (my fave being that I wouldn't take my boy ANYWHERE without him having a say in where he goes and who he sees), but he doesn't remember any of the actual agreements reached.

Good luck to you - please don't let him change the goal posts again. Look at the long term picture, not the one uncomfortable situation.

It's all about him....winning, and winning over you. It's not about the boys, it's about one-upping you, and the court, and being in control and being able to do whatever the hell he wants because people don't want to deal with his anger so he does a good job intimidating them.

Call your atty and file a contempt charge. You can give him a warning...tell him you're gonna if he doesn't adhere to the schedule and maybe he should call his atty and see if he wouldn't get fined for this...

That worked for awhile with my ex.

I feel like I'm reading my story, with a few twists...LOL.

Wow, just like my ex too. He thinks the law doesn't apply to him and that he can pick and choose what he abides by and what he doesn't. Don't capitulate to him because you are afraid of the tantrums. Let the boys see his tantrums...it reveals who is the better parent. He uses the anger to control.

He has them this weekend. Today he called to ask for a day early and a day later. I told him no and stood firm. He played weird little word games. I said no.

He said my notes are wrong. I said no. He said he and his attorney didn't take notes, but they know I'm wrong. Liar.

He said he'll get 50-50 after the two-month trial period. I said no.

I told him to quit negotiating in front of the kids. He asked why that makes me angry.

I hung up.

Good, good, good....GOOD for YOU!