What is Physical Emotional Abuse
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) or is unlawful or wrongful....
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My divorce papers have been sent to the cout and will be serving him in about two weeks. Law states that we both can reside in the home till the temporary order hearing. Question I have is one, he does not know that papers are filed and he's going to be served. He knows that I've been contemplating divorce. two, do i am probably going to be notified when he's been served might be able to find out the day he is going to be, working on my connection with the sheriff's office. do i stick around or come home that day from work and see what happens? no protective order was allowed to go before the physical abuse happened in 1991 and the friggin legal aid attorney doesn't feel that there is a risk. i'm told to call the cops if feel threatened. i don't want to have a confrontation at all, but we are hoping that when he's served at work, he will have the day to calm down and let it soak in..but i have a plan if we have to leave, we are goin to my moms..do i just plan that? leave that day???????
Posted on 10/30/09, 06:10 pm |
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It's a good idea to not be around him, at all, after the papers are served.
It sends chills down my spine each time I read that a woman is staying in the same home with an abuser after she has made known she is getting out of the marriage/relationship. Even guys who don't seem dangerous at the time can lose it and really hurt someone. Plan to go to moms. Take some stuff you don't want destroyed over there right now. 
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Err, if he has a history of violence, you probably don't want to be around & alone with him when he's served. The legal aid attorney gave you questionable advice, imo.
Call the cops if you feel threatened?? What if you're physically not able to for some reason?? I would be ready to go to your mom's asap, I wouldn't chance depending on the courts, paperwork, etc... to be timed exactly right in gauging my safety. I hope all goes well, keep us posted!
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I would stay at your mom's for awhile...better safe than sorry, right? Take care of yourself, focus on loving you, and congratulations for getting you. It takes a lot of courage to leave a marriage, esp. an abusive one. So hugs to you ...
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Yep, go to your moms. And start taking anything that you don't want to lose now, before he's served. Be careful, this is the most volatile time. The fact that you can legally reside there has nothing to do with it being safe for you to do that. And for your kids....You know my ex used to love to use my son, don't give him that option. Stay safe....Keep in touch. Hugs...
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Can you take the day off and move your stuff out while he is at work? I definitely wouldn't be around after he gets served. Good Luck and Take care of yourself.
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