What is Physical Emotional Abuse
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) or is unlawful or wrongful....
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First of alli am happy to have found this site because now I know that I am not alone. I feel like many of you anger, At myself for allowing this to happen to me and angry at him. He blames me for the split. He doesn't see himself as hving any part of it. He keeps doing things to hurt me. My heart hurts, my head hurts. The house is so calm when he is not here.
I had him go to anger management courses, but he quickly stopped after 3 sessions. We went to marriage couseling and the counselor was worried about him because of what he displyed during the sessions. I fear for myself because I feel like I can snap at any minute. Posted on 07/05/09, 02:07 pm |
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TTimes, you found a good place to vent and get support.
Blaming, hurting you, unsuccessful counseling (him), living in a fearful state, peace only when he's not around....these are all parts of a relationship with an abuser. Anger management doesn't work on abusers because abuse is about CONTROL. I suggest not to give up on therapy for yourself (only). You will need some help dealing with these feelings, and the hurt and pain he has caused you. Also, it helps so much to have someone validate what you're feeling. It may take some time to find a good fit, but it's worth it even just for short term. You may have PTSD, there is a lot of info. on DS about it if you search. Symptoms can include that feeling like you're going to 'snap', as you mentioned. I get that, I've been there. I still am struggling with anxiety issues & panic attacks. There is hope and help for you. Also, I highly recommend BLOCKING him from your life as much as possible (I gather you're divorced from your profile?) The less contact, the less hurt from him. On-topic e-mails only about the kids. It's interesting that the counselor recognized some scary behavior in him. Take steps to assure your safety. Hugs...hang in there! 
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i hear you hun
i wish i could tell you to leave, but i muself haven't . i will tell you, you are not alone hugs
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