Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

nah...only if you want it to be....

I love reading all these replies. I'm feeling so angry today. Thanks for all the suggestions!

I too was so angry and it got me deeper into trying to take it out on him which was so not the solution.

Throw ice against a brick wall.
Scream into a pillow
Tear the pages of an old phone book.

I write. I write the longest letter about everything with no intention of sending it.

Practice forgiveness, to release yourself from the negativity of the hateful feelings. Acknowledge your disappointment and exactly what you wanted and didn't get, and accept it. Contact your spiritual higher power and feel that love, and ask it to be sent out to your abuser, and feel it go out to them. If forgiveness for them by us is too hard we can ask our God to do it for us through us. No contact or approval necessary - just to let go of what was lost in the abuse.

Direct anger - I am angry because _ I would like _ - and recognize we can't change someone else, only ourselves, and what can we do? Accept it? Do something else? Learn from it?