Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Aww this is horrible. If you can get hold of some counselling it will help you to come to terms with what happened to you. This will in turn enable you to deal with your addiction to co-codamol.

Atherapist will not break your confidence about what has and is happening with you.

xxx

thanks im not looking for sympathy jusdt advice.
I dont think it would be confidential as reporting it would protect others due to the inviromernt i was in at the time

I know that this is hard, but you are really between a rock and a hard place. Yes, reporting it might be a requirement, but unless you have some way of getting help otherwise, you have no hope of overcoming your addiction.

Going throug the process of reporting it and procecuting may have two outcomes, both positive. If you are not in a place where you can handle that emotionally, I understand and respect that, but bear with me for just one moment while I explain. The laws of reporting this type of incedent are there for the protection of others who might be assaulted like you have been, and the only way to do that is to prosecute and put the perpetrator behind bars. This type of behavior is reprehensible and deserving of such punishment. Going through the process of this will also allow you to release all of the shame and anger that you are feeling right now. I know that might be hard to understand or accept, and I wouldn't suggest you do this without the help and support of a good therapist who can guide you through all of the emotions and fears that you are trying desparately to suppress. If you go into counseling or even treatment (if your addiction requires that) then the reporting and outcomes CAN be done on your terms and your timeline. They WILL have to report it, but until you are healthy enough to follow through, there is not much else that can legally happen. Discuss this with your therapist and consider his or her responses carefully.

I desparately want for two things. I want for you to get better and I want for this person to be accountable for his actions. Without that, there is another victim laying in wait. It is possible that you can kill both birds with one stone.

thank you but it needs to be in my own time i feel that i as a victim come last and everyone who should be helping me eg councillors etc seem to be covering for the person who did this 2 me, im not going to get help all the while it may get reported, i know what you mean it could happen to someone else, but it would of happened to someone before me surely?
i cant move forward in my life at the moment in terms of my illness, disbility or the rape i suffered.
Im just crying so much at the moment and i dont know what to do

There are places you can go anonymously for help. There are rape crisis lines etc. If your counselor is not listening then maybe you need to find one who will. I am sure you are scared and feel helpless < as victims we all do> But don't let them keep you a victim. Stand up for yourself and ask for help.By you reporting it you could save who knows how many others from having to suffer what you did. There is no shame in your addiction. I wish you the very best and hope that you continue to post and keep us informed about your progress. It took alot of courage to make your first post. Be proud of yourself :)

Addiction is not mandated reporting unless you are putting someone or yourself in danger. There is a lot of help available through counseling etc.
You could also go to N.A. After several surgeries I became addicted to pain meds too, and used meds to cope with with life, not just pain. Then I shattered my ankle and had an ongoing RX for Norco. I don't take it unless I can't walk.
You can do it. It's amazing how much better you will feel. I would probably have stayed numbed out and in my marriage if I hadn't gotton off the meds.