Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

I'm not exactly sure where to start, but I do know that I need some validation that I'm not the "crazy" one.

My husband and I have been together (not necessarily married) since 2006. His boys moved in with us in 2007. In February 2009, we started official proceedings for custody of the boys.

In August of 2009, we had an argument and he strangled me and pushed me through several rooms by my throat. I'm still here so he obviously let go before he killed me, but it was terrifying. Thankfully, he hasn't been physical with me since then, but there have been a couple of times I thought he would.

Since then, he started calling me names. They started off bad, but not blatantly cussing like he'd call me lazy, selfish or crazy. Well for some reason I have yet to understand, we got married in September of 2010. I instantly became depressed; sometimes mildly and sometimes moderately.

February of this year, my depression kicked up a notch and I sought help. My med change wasn't fast-acting enough and I ended up in a severe, suicidal depression that required a lot of treatment and it didn't fully clear up until the middle of May.

Since then, my husband’s attitude towards me (and most everyone else to a certain degree) drastically declined. He's done things that we agreed upon in the beginning of our relationship that he wouldn't do. He flat-out calls me a bitch if I don't do what he asks and/or threatens a divorce. He doesn't listen to me at all anymore when I talk to him and then claims I never said it. He argues with me about things and when I present the facts in a logical manner, he simply chooses not to listen and does what he wants anyway.

And now it appears I have RA on top of already having Fibromyalgia. So his newest kick is to tell me I’m just using it as an excuse to not do what I’m supposed to do like he does. He says he’s in pain every day too, but takes care of his responsibilities (not really, but he thinks he does). Truth is, he takes Backaide and gets relief of his back pain and I take large doses of Vicodin and have very little relief of my pains so it’s apples to oranges, but he refuses to accept that.

Anyway, a couple of weeks ago, we got into another argument and I wouldn't talk to him and so he unplugged the WiFi. I didn't know that at the time, but when I went to reset it, I saw that it was unplugged and plugged it back in. Well then he went outside and disconnected the cable to try and force me to talk.

And last night, we got into an argument that resulted in him trying to get me out of bed by turning on the lights and turning off the TV, then yanking the covers off me, then trying to throw my cats outside and when I locked them in the bedroom with me to keep them safe, he kicked the door in damaging it, the mirror attached and the wall behind.

Oh, and we’ve been in marriage counseling for about a year now. So this is all completely unacceptable, right? I’m not being overly dramatic or anything?
Posted on 08/02/12, 11:33 am