Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

I wouldnt show anything to my ex, but I know he has read my thoughts on here. I wondered if it would make him think, but on reading from all of your experiences, the thread on narcissism, and reading a few articles, I would agree, it wont make any difference. I know Ive did the sensible thing in leaving

I doubt it. They'd probably think what terrible liars we are, because they have a different reality of what is normal. When a victim escapes, history is often re-written by the abuser in order to make what they did feel somehow justified.

No. The only time an abuser feels remorse is when they are caught, in jail (unlikely) or on their death bed.

I remember the smile on my stepfather's face before he beat me. He knew what he was doing, he'd been though it himself, but he enjoyed it immensely, beating down on me, so tall, hearing the little girl scream. When he dies his life will flash before his eyes and even then he will feel nothing next to remorse for what he did to me and my brother every day, it'll be like remembering grocery shopping.

He's not a human being in my eyes. He found Jesus but I doubt Jesus found him.

Wow, I am so glad to have read this.... I left my ex four months ago and he is still trying to get me back. Of course, he had his way with me! But I know it is bs and will never, ever go back. He has said he has changed and will do whatever it takes, blah blah blah. After reading through this, I have discovered a wonderful thought though. For so long they had power over us, to control and abuse. But really, we have the power. If I don't go back to him, he has nothing. He actually needs ME. Without me, he is nothing. Without a victim, he is nothing. When I stay away and don't give in, I win. I have the power. And he is left with no one to control and manipulate and abuse. It makes me feel so much better to stay away now..... What would be the best way to tell him to fuck off? Or should I just keep ignoring?

Just keep ignoring him. do what you can to stop him from getting in touch - block his number, email addresses. Delete his messages as the arrive, without reading them. Come on here when you are feeling low, write it out and people will help, will read and give you support. Keep the power you have taken back, dont give him anything x