Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

I know exactly what you are going through. I just left my husband three days ago. I've been with my husband for six years, married for three. Most of our time together is good but when he gets mad, it's all over with. The only difference is, my husband is physically abusive towards me. Like your husband, mine has a justification for everything. It is pure rage! But when things are good, they are amazing. It doesn't happen very often. In fact, I went a whole year without being hit, I honestly didn't think it was going to happen again and then it did... and I left. And it hurts so bad. I don't really know if I'm going to make it without him, but three days strong, is three days I haven't been abused.

I'm in the same situation, but I have only been married to my husband for 2 years. We as women have to ask ourselves is this the kind of marriage God wants me to be in.

cant really give advice, but just know that you are not alone. its not your fault he is like that. some men are just like that.
we have been the unlucky ones to find them.

advice? get out! You and your kids don't deseve to be treated like that... I was so psicologicaly abused by my drunk, pot smoking mean hubby, that suicide was actually an option... I'm not saying that that's going to happen to you, but stop giving him the power to manipulate you like that. I know it's hard... It took me 10 years to get out, but now I can breath... I can see my self smile again... my kids are happier now... don't take to long, but as a counselor once told me.... it's your decision to make, and you take the time you need to for it... but think abuot this... your kids are going to learn to either be abusers o be abused themselves...

i was married to a guy who was a huge control freak for ten years, in the end it got worse because i never said anything or tried to stop him from hurting my children. but in the end i had to get out, he raped me in front of one of my children and bashed me so bad, that some of my family and friends did not reconise me.
it took eight police officers to hold him down and take him away. but i had people tell me not to go back to him, i decided not too, because i was so scared he was going to kill me. it was affecting my children deeply. that the more i stayed the more i was messing my children's lives up.
as one point, he held a loaded shot gun to my head, now that was too much, but i am happy to say i am now married to a great guy that does not know how to really raise his voice of get angry, he is
from God, but in the end , it was good i got out for the children.
But my advice to you is get out, you can not stay, what happens if he gets worse, there is many women out there being killed or seriously injured by the partner.
please for your sake and your kids sake, get out, yeah it gets a bit hard to raise your children alone, but there is people out there that will be there for you.
i hope i helped you out as much as i could
take care
lots of love
julie
God bless
xxxxxx