What is Pet Bereavement
The loss of a pet or a non-human animal to which one has become emotionally bonded can be an intense loss, comparable with the death of a loved one. Whilst there is strong evidence...
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In a few hours, I will be putting my beloved cats to sleep. I am most upset about my Savannah. he was diagnosed with cancer in February and the tumor on his head prevents him from seeing out of one eye. Regardless, he has been very strong and only recently did I notice a change with him. It was then that I made my decision. He is a very social and loving cat, but the past few weeks he's been withdrawn. He still sits in the living room around the hustle and bustle, but he doesn't interact. He stopped using the litterbox a while ago. It didn't matter to me-it's just a house. I can sand the floors, but this is my kitty. The night I decided to put him down, he kept crying and crying. I didn't know what was wrong with him. He ended up sitting with me on the couch all night and even after I went to bed, he curled up with one of my dogs. He hasn't been that affection since. I'd like to think that he was thanking me or something, but I feel like I'm grasping at straws.
I don't think I can do this. I know that it's the best for him and I don't want him to suffer. The part that upsets me the most is the car ride to the vet. He hates the car and I don't want his last moments to be filled with fear and anxiety. I wish there was something I could do. I wanted him to go at home, if only just to avoid that stupid car. As I write this, he is sitting next to me, curled up on his chair. I don't know how to be without him. What do I do when I come home this afternoon and don't see him? What happens when I want to touch him and can't? I am used to cleaning up cat urine and always having shoes on in the house. I won't have to do that anymore, but will it break me? How can I do this? How can I learn to breathe again?... Posted on 11/05/09, 10:11 am |
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There are times as pet owners when we have to put our total love and connection aside and do what is best for our beloved animals. I think that it is time to do this for your wonderful friend. If you can't find a mobile vet to come to your house, try to put your dear little kitty in a secure carrier filled with a warm blanket and cover it before you get it into the car. This is such a horrible job for us that truly adore our cats. Now is the time to call a good friend to help take you to the vet and bring you home. I have to tell you this last part. When I had the vet come to my house and put my Mr. Tommy Tunafish to sleep I actually held him during the injections. This is the part that I wish that I could change. I know that he was suffering, but it was still one of the hardest things for me to do to him. I am not sure that I would suggest being there when they actually do the injections. Very heartbreaking..
You will be very brave through this and I am feeling your pain. Let me know how things go, dear. Hugs, Jan 
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My cats are gone now and it was by far the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I have lost friends and family members, but nothing compares to this. I was with both of them when they received the injection. My vet advised against it, saying that it was too much to handle in one day (she was right), but I had to be there for both of them. If I had to do it over again, I'd do the same thing. The only good thing was that neither was too upset by the car. I feel that I did the right thing for one and the wrong thing for the other. I can't get over the guilt that I should have done more. One was sick with cancer, the other had severe behavioral issues. I walk around my house filled with regret, with sorrow, searching for forgiveness that won't come. At least not from whom I need it to come from. I yearn to touch their soft fur, nuzzle their faces if only for a few minutes longer. My home feels so empty without their presense. I have my young pups that keep me busy, but I'm used to having a four animal household. It seems odd that two are missing, I don't feel like I'm home. I think I needed them more than they needed me...
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I'm so sorry to hear about your baby. It is the most agonizing decision a person ever has to make. My little Misty had to be put down back in June. I still miss her so much and I always will. She was constantly with me and a huge part of my life is now gone with her. Your life will never be the same again - there will always be that missing part. Time does help to a degree - but, the sadness. and emptiness without her is still always with me. Misty was really sick and the Vet said the only thing to do was to have her put down. Even though, you have a valid reason for having them put down - it still eats away at you. At times, even now, I still question if I did the right thing. However, I realize that I did - as my little girl was suffering as was your baby.
Please try to remember all the good times and all the love that the 2 of you shared together and try not to feel guilty - just think that now he is not suffering any more. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Lindsay13
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