What is Pet Bereavement
The loss of a pet or a non-human animal to which one has become emotionally bonded can be an intense loss, comparable with the death of a loved one. Whilst there is strong evidence...
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With no notice I had to put my cat to sleep.
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I'm so lost and depressed and sad. On Monday Oct.26 2009 I woke up and my cat was crying and peeing frequently and he was in a lot of pain. I took him to the vet on my way to work. He had a really really bad UTI. I thought he'd be on antibiotics and special food to break down the crystals, and he'd be better in no time. The vet called later and said he had to be hospitalized, which we didn't have the money for because our dog was sick a month prior and we spent $4600 in hospital fees to keep him alive. It would be $3000 easily to hospitalize my cat for everything he needed. He was in so much pain he needed surgery and a catheter and to be under 24 hr. care. They said we could take him home but I was highly warned his bladder could block and die. I started crying hysterically. I didn't know what to do. After talking with my boyfriend and mom they helped me make the right choice by putting Nitro to sleep. But I feel so lost without him.
I have experienced so many feelings within 48 hours, the guilt, the what-ifs, only if I took him to the vet sooner, they would have caught it. He was totally fine over the weekend. Nothing was wrong. He has the most spunk and personality I've ever seen in a cat. I miss him so much. It's like it happened so suddenly and either choice was not an option. I didn't want to just bring him home for our sake and have him be in pain. Besides the antibiotics wouldn't have really began to work for about 1-2 weeks, along with the special food. And when I took him in he was at the point he needed the utmost medical attention. On top of that, the vet who was on duty, harassed me about making the decision to put him to sleep. But I didn't want him to suffer anymore. She tried to get me to sign him over to other pet adoption agencies who would pay for his hospitalization. She wouldn't take no for an answer. She was short and rude to me when I was trying to understand everything and ask her questions. Finally she got mad and said Fine! I'll get your bill and things together and we'll call you back! And hung up on me. I was hysterical. I called back to speak with the manager and she wasn't any help. So everyone, friends and family, have encouraged me to file an official complaint against that specific vet. I have so many mixed emotions. I just want to grieve for my cat in peace. I miss him so much. I wish there was something more I could have done for him. Signed, Full of Tears & Feeling Lost P.S. Any advice or support from people who have been through this experience will be so grateful. I miss him! My puppy, my other cat, and my boyfriend (he even cried with me) miss him too!! He was the leader of the pack. RIP Nitro. Posted on 10/28/09, 07:10 pm |
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Hello
Wow your experience is just like mine,i had to put my beautiful cat of 10 years to sleep as well due to the severe male cat UTI urinary tract infection ,,,i wish it was not called just an infection because this is very misleading as people think its just an infection so yes he used to have some problems peeing and also sometimes lately we would find blood in the litter box but a couple of days ago he seemed very down and seemed he could not pee at all but the cat was still strong just depressed and crying like something was hurting him,so i tried to squeeze his tummy to try to get the urine out and also tried to stimulate the urethra NOTHING worked at home,brought him to vet and decided to have him go thru the catherization BUT major problem it did not work the UTI was so bad the catheter would not go in and only other choice would be to remove his penis,and i would not do this as usually it does not help anyway so right after that while he was sedated i had to put him down.....went so fast just like your experience and i also felt guilt and also didnt know if i made the right decision,but the vet said it was i still had hope he would maybe make it if i brought him home...I think the problem here is we think the cats were ok because they seemed like they were just a little sick but UTI sneeks up on them and they go down really fast.... If anybody out there has a cat that cant pee or sees them have blood in urine DO NOT feed them anymore dry cat food and bring to vet ASAP. You have to blame the dry cat food industry as there is no warning that the dry cat food really makes the condition worse even probably causes this....It sucks that they went so fast and there is no time to make a decision so thats where the confusion and guilt sets in. May our cats RIP 
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Julia,
I feel for you, believe me. I was about to be evicted from the apt I lived in for 17 yrs and my sister would not let me take my two cats with me. I told them to the shelter crying hysterically (literally) the whole time. I couldn't even talk to tell the person at the shelter the information she needed I was crying so much. Two weeks later, I called the shelter to see how the cats were doing. Everyone told me that was a mistake, but they were my babies. I found out within two weeks they put them to sleep and Mindy was only 3 yrs old and healthy as a horse. Sassy was 17 and had the beginnings or renal disease. They told me that Mindy was not adoptable because she wouldn't use the litter box. I told them they were crazy for putting such a young cat to sleep because she was scared and confused. I have cried so hard for so long over the last two weeks. I thought something was wrong with me for crying so hard over animals, but they had become my children and I loved them dearly. You are normal in your grief for your cat. I lost my mom recently too so, it's a double (triple) whammy, but I think the best we can do is to take care of ourselves and do nice things for ourselves for awhile. Cry as much as you need to and as long as you need to. They are family. I hope you can find some peace soon.
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