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Obsessing over my new neighbor
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I live in a duplex. The bottom unit is the one I live in and, in the top, live two guys. It's really easy to hear them and I'm pretty sure it's easy for them to hear me. One is kind of cute and really funny. My feelings towards him are fairly platonic. The other guy, however, is attractive and totally my type and has a dog. So, needless to say I'm interested. When I think he can hear me I start obsessing over him. Today I really want to read his facebook profile over and over again. I think it could be harmless but if I let myself do that I could see me letting myself do other obsessive things.
What do you do to stop yourself from obsessing? Posted on 11/02/09, 02:11 pm |
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i should think many has become obbesive over a good looking guy/girl at some time or other bpd or not bpd. i don't think it's nothing to worry about. 
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I think it's normal to be infatuated and think about them from time to time but it's a pattern I have, though. I idealize them and myself based on what I think they think about me. I have a hard time telling the difference between what I've fantasized about their thought and feelings about me and what they have actually said. My feelings grow based on what I've imagined. That I think I should be aware of and try to fix.
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Crushs are normal but maybe you should go outside one day and wait for him to say hello? or say hello to him? you look pretty...
even if you dont feel like you can still go push yourself to do what you wanna do lifes short,make yourself happy.
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And what i use to do to make myself stop obsessing was just realise im like anyone else..I look ugly? oh no im gonna get jumped again? why are they staring at me? why am i different? everyone has there unique beauty..ill find out where they live..cause im me and if someone cant accept that then why would i wanna get to know them anyway? being different is yourself making you different in a population that far worse and more insecure than me/you/whoever else...sorry for posting so much
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Marilyn,
Thanks for the advice. I welcome as much as you want to give. I know he could be attracted to me and that's part of the problem. I don't think I should date or sleep with either of them because it could end up being an odd living situation. I usually sleep with men and then loose interest or become completely attached. Maybe I could break the pattern. Anyway, until I feel more comfortable the rule is I cannot be alone with either of them. To stop myself from obsessing is distracting myself with other people and tasks. It's kind of worked. However, I can hear them walking around so, that usually brings the focus back to them. Also, I agree. Everyone has insecurities. It's kind of sad but it's a comforting thought.
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