What is Paralysis
Paralysis is the complete loss of muscle function for one or more muscle groups. Major causes are stroke, trauma, poliomyelitis, amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS), botulism, spin...
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Hello everyone. I am new this particular support group. Actually, I am here for my brother. Back in October he fell off a 2 story scaffel and is now paralyzed from the chest down. He does have use of his arms. He has been making great strides but gets depressed very easily. He hates that he has to ask people for help especially when doing things around the house. Last night, he gave into the temptations and tried to kill himself. He took a bunch of pills and tried to cut the main artery in his leg, hoping to bleed out. Fortunately, his wife was home and found him. He is now in ICCU. He keeps saying that he is a burden to everyone. We are a very tight family. He is extremly stubborn and we are having a hard time getting him to counseling. Does anyone have any suggestions. I cannot imagine at all his pain but would like to help. He has three beautiful girls who need him. My brother is a wonderful man. Although he always struggled with depression he has always taken care of his responsibilities. Not sure if they will let him go home now because of his attempted suicide. Can anyone enlighted me as to what will happen. Thanks so much in advance for your help.
Posted on 06/23/09, 11:06 am |
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It is very hard to accept those changes. Imagine yourself not being able to do anything you want to do, just by thinking about it.
I used to get so angry with others that could just get up from a chair & walk to the kitchen for a drink. The most important thing is to let him know that you will be there. It is a long road to accept all the changes but it can be done with a lot of work on his part. 
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Hello
I kind of understnad your pain. My brother was in a motorcycle accident last november and he is paralysed from his waist down. I know that times are hard and specially in a situation like the one our faamilies (yours and mine) have been put under. My advice is always stay positive. I know that this is a very tall order but try your best. There are days that I get tired because I dont know what to do and things go badly for my brother but I try to smile and laugh and make jokes and keep everyone in good spirits. If you need to cry and let off steam go for a walk jump in the shower or lock yourself in the closet. Your brother does not need to see you down. Also let him know that you are there for him. Take him funny movies, get together with her daughters and put on a show for him. Make goofy things like pupets with old socks etc. Also, last thing I found very helpful is to let them do their own thing. Even if they are having a hard time pretend you dont notice and let them achieve it on their own. Hang in there.
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