What is Panic Attacks
A panic attack is a period of intense fear or discomfort, typically with an abrupt onset and usually lasting no more than thirty minutes. Symptoms include trembling, shortness of b...
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Panic attacks, lost job, custody battle, HELP!!!!
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I've been having so many panic attacks lately and I'm feeling almost just devistated bc I have lost my job due to the frequent attacks! I was going to try to taper off my clonazepam but I've decided to put that off for a bit. I'm currently going through a custody battle with my son's father. I had origionally wanted to just share custody with him without involving the court. Then he told me he wanted to have our son during the week and me on the weekends. Then he filled for child support (when we both agreed not to do that), then I found out our son was actually only spending one day a week with his dad. Everytime he'd go to see his dad, he would send him 45 mins away to stay with his 73 yr old grandma until Friday. I wanted my son with me this entire time but when I found all this out, I went ahead and just got my son and he's living with me now. Me and my boyfriend are serious about eachother and plan to get married in a few years when we are 27. We are very much in love and he's very good to me and my son! My son used to not like him but he's really starting to! For the first time in my life, it feels like family! A real family between the 3 of us!
I would never try to keep my son away from his biological father unless he was being mistreated. But I was advised to keep my son with me until we were able to go to court and custody was legally established. His father has already threatened to keep him from me and I know its just for the child support money! Why else would he get him from me knowing I want him with me, just to send him to his grandma's for 4 days until it was my turn again? He did this several times! And now I dont even have a job to give him money. Anyway, I have help with my son from my boyfriend and his family. So whenever I have a panic attack, somebody is always there to help with him. But I did loose my job bc of the attacks and it was a good job! It paid well, good hours. I was just having these horrific attacks every day! Having to leave bc I couldnt stand sitting at my desk. I couldnt concentrate on my work! Now I'm so upset!!!! I'm out of work and I know thats not going to help me in court! I dont know what to do!!!! I cant loose my son! What should I do??? Posted on 09/28/09, 12:09 pm |
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I also wanted to add that I am in therapy and I have an apt next Monday. I'm going to discuss all this with her then as well.
The clonazepam I'm taking is 1mg once at night. I cant sleep without it. I'm prescribed to take it twice a day and I do when I really need it, which has been alot the past couple days. It didnt really help me at work though. Even when I took it before work. These attacks are just so strong!!!! Feels like I'm going to die! Even though I know they cant actually kill me, I couldnt get control at work. -Nikki 
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Hi Nikki,
So sorry to hear that your going thru So much right now,I really am. As for the Clonazepam,,,I honestly don't think that this is the med for you at this time. I am No doctor,,but have seen my share and have taken All the anti anxiety meds available. The Clonazepam does not take action as fast as your needing at this time. I would suggest that you talk with you doctor and ask him/her for something that is fast acting, such as Ativan, or Xanax. Don't worry about addiction right now,,,sounds as if you have enough worries as it is. The Clonazepam does work,,but its a drug that Has to stay in your system at All times in order to get its full affect. Your taking a Low dosage and I cant see that it would be too much of a problem stopping this medication for awhile....If you want to talk,,ask me to chat or message me. I want to help if I can,,,But just hang in there.....Easier said than done, that I know.
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Hi hon, I think you need a big break with a capital B!! A very good friend of mine is going through something very similar although she is in her mid 30's. When 2 parents split up there is always a TON of stress to deal with. The trick is managing it all-The advice I gave her and I'm giving to you as well is choose when to deal with it all. You don't have to think about it and deal with it 24/7!! Put things "in a box" and deal with it when you feel that you can. When you feel an attack coming on stop what you're doing and remind yourself that it is only a moment and that it will pass. Your attack will subside as it always does and soon you'll realize that they'll be less bad and frequent. This is how I started having less of them (a LOT less) and how I learned to cope with them when they do arrive.
I also suggest you first take a break from working (though it appears life has given you one). Your goal should be becoming less stressed and clearheaded-hatha yoga and exercise is great for this. Once you feel ready again, begin looking for something else. Don't worry if you "lost" that job. You were not meant to be there at this time. Period. Something better WILL come your way, but first you need to take care of yourself!! Only YOU can do that. And most importantly, it really truly matters what YOU believe of yourself and your situation. Everyone has opinions but it is yours that counts the most. Take the time to "be" with yourself and love yourself. You'll see that you are amazing and can figure out the best way to deal with the panic attacks, the crazy ex and raising your lovely child and STILL look hot doing it!! :D Good luck! xoxo
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hi nikki, i lost my job too because of my panic disorder. i went on ssi, i didn't get that much on ssi, but i got free medical and foodstamps. i was separated from my husband too, but my kids were older. clonazepam 2mg. is what i took, but i also took paxil, and depakote with them. that was ten years ago, i had tried so many drugs and nothing helped. then i started taking xanax, it help, it is fast acting, but i got addicted to it. my body was giving me false panic attacks, because it wanted xanax, i had to go in the hospital and get weaned off, it was like hell, soooo bad. the nurse said it was like going off of herion. so be careful with that drug. everyone is different, it might not happen to you. this combo i'm on is o.k., i still have anxiety, and my panic attacks went away, only to get agorphobia, afraid to leave the house. i think you should stay on the clonazepam, and also have another medication. don't try to stop taking your meds. now, you are going through to much stress. good luck, i know it is hard. i take cloazepam 2mg. 3x's a day, one in morning, one in late afternoon and one at night time, i take the paxil in morning and depakote in morning and night. i can only go out, if i go out with someone, anyone and i am fine, but by myself...forget it. but belive it or not, i rather have that then panic attacks. good luck hon, and i hope things work out for you.
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if you want to stop the panic attacks you disolve a large dose of any valiumm type med under the tongue, and breathe slow and deep, ask to be excused for a while saying you have a migrane
get and study some self help books on overcoming and coping with panic attacks did you never get this advice before? any court appearances will need you well fortified with valium to avoid panic attacks for a while
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Thanks everyone! Your all so nice!!!! I'm taking everything you've said into consideration. All I can say is, I'm so lucky to have found you!
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Well I dont know what evidence I can collect? I know Trea's father lives with his father. They are all alcoholics. I had to pick up my son a few months ago and had my 7 year old neice with me. We both saw that there were beer cans and alcohol bottles everywhere! And the place was so filled with roaches you couldnt look anytwhere and not see at least 3! I checked the cabinets and there was at least 200 crawling in there! No exageration! But Joey (Trea's father) had said he was getting the bug man to come spray. I wish I woulda gotten pictures!!!! They could have cleaned it all up by now. Probably have! I dont have a lawyer yet. I called legal aid and they were supposed to get back in touch with me over a week ago! I'm going to have to call them back.
Its all so stressful! I just have to have my baby with me! I think I can start up a house cleaning service. I used to put flyers everywhere and ppl would call and I'd make a little money doing that. Would that look good in court as a job?
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