What is Pancreatic Cancer
Pancreatic cancer (also called cancer of the pancreas) is represented by the growth of a malignant tumour within the small pancreas organ. Each year about 31,000 individuals in the...
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How do you cope with possibly loosing a father?
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My dad has been fighting pc for about a year and a half, much longer than the doctors thought he would but now it has came time....
We just heard yesterday that the ct showed that the latest rounds of chemo wasn't doing what they expected it would. They say his body can't take the chemo no more, its not that its too weak just yet its the chemo is just not working. The Dr gave him the news that he may only make it until the fall. My dad seems to think next fall but they are sending hospice in. I work in the healthcare field, i know when they send in hospice that the patient usually has less than 6 months.... my question is how do you try to get your mind around the fact that i am going to loose my dad. His grandson is only 3 he is going to miss alot. also how do i tell my son that grandpa is sick and is not going to be around anymore? I know his little mind will not understand for a few years yet but what so you tell them till then? Posted on 09/05/09, 05:09 pm |
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I'm so sorry you've reached this point. I lost my father less than a year ago and I know I'm still not accepting it because I wasn't ready to give him up. You probably never are. Just be with him and help him and spend time with him reminiscing about the memories you share from when you were a kid living with him and what you did together.
As for your son, probably what he'll grasp now is that his grandpa is very sick and not going to get better. He isn't likely to understand death or its permanence, and those talks will most likely have to wait until you do have something to explain to him. I wish you strength and good, loving memories that you can still be building now. I said everything to my dad that I could, because I didn't want to look back later and regret that I never had a chance to tell him this or that. I really am so sorry that you're losing him. 
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I do agree with lidlone. Just spend as much time with you dad, your 3 year old will not understand, I told mine when my dad and mom died that God was going to help them better up in heaven. That makes them feel good that someone is helping them.
I lost my dad and then 14 years later my mom, all I can say is do the things you both like to do. With my mom she knew she was dying . What I did and it seem to help , thank goodness my husband let me do this, I took my mom to places she never got to go because she was saving money for us kids to have. I truly enjoyed my time with her and she enjoyed it too. I still miss her very much, even my dad, but I do have good memories. And that is the best we can ask for. I will be praying for your dad and for the doctors that are taking care of him. I will pray for you too.
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Words can not come close to expressing what I feel. I am so sorry. as for the coping the best suggestion would be to talk to friends, family and even seek grief counceling. Spend as much time as possible with your dad and even ask questions that you would never had the chance to. As for your son maybe you can video tape your dad with hime and even have him talk on the video about past stories...this will give both you and your child the gift of knowing and remembering ur dad! I hope this helped!
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