I'm always intense and distressed, though try to remain calm when this rat race of doctors and the access to care reaches frustrating proportions. Also, when one has chronic disorders and/or disease, the lengthy problems tend to be much like a classroom or church where the speakers tend to be long and laborious with their speeches, or intruction. I think much of this is due to peoples short attention spans. What cannot be explained or taught quickly within a short period tends to get ignored more as the chronicity of the problem adds to the problems. Thus the sick in particular feel unloved, no sense of compassion, and the less knowledgeable the listener, the less attention the poor sick individuals get. So it's a Catch-22. If you complain, they want to see you and listen to you even less as the symptoms worsen and drag on. So many of the chronically ill anywhere run into this horrible problem of lost attention spans. The people don't listen to their children, neighbors get tired of
listening if at all, and overall you, as a sick person, or in the roll of a chronic caretaker, tend to get hurt, angry and very disappointed in what are very complicated scenarios. But for the doctors to be hurried is perhaps the worst cut of all. I understand what you're saying, about family, and neighbor, some so-called "friends" and numerous people in the health care professions, who simple don't give a damned after awhile. Your plight I've seen happening more than ever in our history due to the population explosion of our country, and resultant time limitations on your care for the sake of treating the masses. Unfortunately, the concept of mass treatments of massive demands has to lead to ONE of these results: No access to care, or poor access to care (a major flaw currently), doctors limited to 10-15 minutes, which is only enough to diagnose the simplest of obvious problems, and the problem that this increasing population is having on our country, making individuals feel no compassion, and reluctant to go see a doctor at all anymore. Your friends forsake you, your own family considers you a basket case or hypochrodriac if you case can't be cured within a few days, and you get the shaft in the process.
Yes, I know very well where you are coming from, and it's a disgrace to people everywhere who don't have that "C" word in their body,,COMPASSION. It is lacking in doctors, and many hospital staffs, families, friends, and acquaintance who don't want to hear anybody's problems unless they are short and sweet. These are the "people" of which you speak, and my heart goes out to you. The limitations imposed by overpopulation and doctors without compassion, plus all the other many critics of our dilemmas are a disgrace to the human race. But it's a fact more so than ever now. All I can suggest, since I face the same things, is to keep looking for the most positive outlets you can find, if possible. Otherwise, many poor souls do go to an early grave of either silent suffering, or die in the wait. God help us all. This is a huge problem for millions of the chronically ill, because America is the land of the rich and privileged who are enabled to be so, and a victim of a rat race of speed in fast cars, quick fix solutions, and no time for the chronically sick. Thus it's a poor place to survive in the midst of all this. Look for the gems of goodness where you can, and hand onto them if possible. It's all I know to do.
