Ovarian Cancer Support Group

You are very young still.. with plenty of time ahead of you to figure out who you are.. I'm 53 and never figured out who I was before cancer.. never mind now. You've only been on here one day and I already get the sense that you are an extraordinarily, bright, intelligent and perceptive young lady.. who will eventually figure anything out.. You are also very beautiful.. Now there is a start..

Be patient with your friends.. they can only try to understand what you choose to tell them and a lot of this cancer malarkey can only be understood by those of us that have been through it. Be patient with yourself too and enjoy your freedom from chemo and cancer.

One amazing thing that cancer did for me was to show me, very clearly, the things that were important to me in life.. It is a life changing situation to go through.. and in many ways life enhancing. There is lot of Soul searching goes on, but my Soul is clearer these days, as I have ditched a lot of nonsense from my life and take greater care of what I love.. xxx

I agree with everything Halli said...I'm now strting to realize that the word "normal" is relative. Everyone's normal is different, before and after an experience like this. Be kind, be patient, be still. I know these words are easier said than done and I myself require a constant reminder often...sometimes everyday. This is a great group, I hope you find it as helpful as we do.

xoxo

Kia

You are most definitely not alone, I found the transition after chemo quite a challenge. At times I felt in limbo; not really part "normal" and not part of undergoing treatment.

Halli and Kia are right, part of the journey was about redefining what is "normal" and seeing the opportnity as Halli speaks of in that there is this amazing effect of your soul being clearer since you really focus on what matters.

It is hard, but be patient with yourself. things get better with time and some friends will return and you will also make new ones.

This group is amazing and even if you have days when you are discouraged, there is always something here that will brighten your day.

Kellie

I agree with everyone here. There is a "new normal" after Cancer/chemo. You are yourself, but different. People treat you as though nothing happened. And maybe that is a good thing. We know what happened and are forever changed by it. As Inka, said we learn what is important in life, and let the nonsense go.

Welcome Sweetie.
My you are young! And how fortunate for you that you found this and have have dealt with it. As Halli says, your writing tells of a "very special person." That person, has been changed by the disease and process of treatment...but don't we all grow and change thru our lives.
What I see is that cancer, as bad as it can be, is also a "gift" in that it sort of "fast-forwards" us into a higher level of conciousness.
Every moment becomes important...and things that seemed monumental appear to be just so much silliness.
What I have surely learned from this group, is importance of being able to share with someone who truly understands.
And you found DS ! How wonderful for you (and us!)
I am going to turn 60 in Feb. When I was first diagnosed, I was feeling sad about what I might miss. What I found, instead, was that I finally was "really" paying full attention to things that mattered.
I see that just by asking your questions and expressing your thoughts as you have...you are well ahead of te curve.
hugs and welcome to one heck of a bunch of women!!!!

Welcome to DS and you are in a spot for great support through all the issues of cancer and life. Being patient with your self and your loved ones is so important. You have been through so much and finding the blessing in it is not easy but makes life better. I am over a year past my earth shattering news and journey and I have come to one conclusion. I am a different.....stronger....person. My friends haven't changed and sometimes that makes the things that bother them seem so unimportant to me.
Halli hits it right one the spot ....."Ditching the nonsense" My advise is a yoga or meditation class to help you stay focused on you and your health. Getting rid of the clutter also makes it easier to hear where to go but I must say I still don't know.
We are here for you and looking forward to getting to know you better.
Beth