Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) Support Group

go to another docter,Now. he may not have problems in school like he does at home, get another docter,, the early you get him treatment and help the better he will be.. you need to get yourself some help too to learn how to deal with him and parent and him'
good luck,

He needs to get to another doctor, I have been told that if treated properly ODD will go away, so far so good, my son is now only on Lamictin and not the Risperdal anymore and he has been great, Please do see another doctor, best of luck

Interim reports came home yesterday! and exactly as I thought, he is struggling in all areas of language arts, he dosent' focus on his work, he has finally gotten learning assistance in the classroom. Now back to his specialist we go. I am armed and ready LOL. the specialist told me we had to wait to see this from the teacher before going any further. He dosent like to participate in certain classes, music being one of them.

I have two girls 6 & 9 both with ADHD, (plus my husband with ADHD and a toddler at home). One has an anxiety disorder and the other ODD, due to issues the girls had before I became their mom. I think even though they make us crazy and frustrated and sad some of the time, I remind myself that kids with problems feel way worse than we ever could. AND they don't know why or that others feel differently because it is the only norm they know.
I feel strongly that I need to be an advocate for my kids, do my homework, ask questions all the time, and not be afraid to try things like new medications or Dr.s because something "just doesn't feel right". No I am not opposed to medication!
I think teachers in school are so overwhelmed and overworked that I just tell them exactly what is going on with my kids all the time and ask if we need to schedule extra time to talk in more detail. They don't have the time to look for subtle changes or guess about behavior things with 25 kids in class (a bunch of which also have IEPs or accommodation plans).
Yes I agree parents need a break from kids and need to make time for themselves, but I feel like as a mom I am directly responsible for my kids success or failure.
Yes ODD is an ugly monster on the outside, rude, angry and violent, but knowing that it is a direct reflection of how your kid feels on the inside, sad, empty and worthless, disposable, is even worse for me. I will keep fighting for their success and to make our house a happy and safe place to be.

So I went in armed yesterday LOL. Took family members with me and a file of work, letters from family interim reports etc. My son is ODD with underlying issues of anxiety and a learning disability. he has been referred to a pyschiatrist for a second opinion.

One doctor told me that my son had ODD ad he was just bad and there was nothing i could do about it. Not the case at all. Unfortunetly sometimes medication is the only answer. My son is 6 and has been on meds since he was three, I'm sure your jaw just dropped however he is a severe case. the most important thing is that a doctor has to be willing to listen to you and if they are not, switch. I got my son help and even though it is a bumpy road, it helps alot when the doctor is on your side. Meds help, it sucks to think about putting them on them however the benefits outway the cons. You do whats best for your baby, follow your gut and heart and you will be okay. best of luck

I too agree with everyone that says get another doctor. Although by the end of the comments it sounds like things are going along a little easier now. You need to feel personal with you doctor and like you can tell them anything and be heard. If not keep searching, it is all about looking, researching, asking, trying again and again and again. It's tiring but we have no other choice.
We can not always wait for our kids to display behaviour in class. We need to move quickly because the wait periods for specialists are slow.
My son started presenting in kindergarten, he had had speach problems so we held that accountable until the start of grade one when he became agressive on the playground and disruptive in the classroom. He became so much so that he was removed to special program for kids of different behavioural issues. It has been a long road and we are anxiously awaiting the day he is reintegrated to his regular home school.
Get support for yourself too, this site is an awesome tool and I'm glad I have found it. It is helpful to hear affirmation of what I go through on a daily basis and know that I am not alone nor are the problems of my son out of the norm.
One thing I have learned is that we need to be the advocate for our children and keep fighting. Know that others are out their rooting for you, good luck in your journey and remember they are worth it..... no matter how difficult the process may be.

Forgot to mention that there is medication, that too is a trial. I am still seeing if what mine is on at the moment is helpful. Just started taking Resperdal.
Mine hits, kicks, swears, throws things etc. too. Especially at school (special program) never thought I would allow my child to call his teachers b.....es or to go f.... themselves or throw shoes or erasers at them.... you are not alone!!!

Please go to another doctor-and another and another and another if that s what it takes. I was like you and didn't want to be "that" mom. But I short changed my child in the process. She ended up running away from home while in high school and was very involved in drugs. Now, at 25, she is back home, in an outpatient treatment for her drug use, and receiving treatment for her ODD. Maybe things would have been different if I had been one of "those mothers", maybe they would be the same. I will never know. She is now learning to interact appropriately with others, to channel her over-reacting tendencies. These are things she should have learned by grade school but never did. She is learning, and her life and mine are better today than they were yesterday, but I have huge regrets.

Thank you,

Risperdal is the medication they are talking about putting him on. I am going on Wednesday as his peditrician asked me to. I've had one teacher ask if he has ever been tested for bi-polar, the more I read the more I wonder. last night was bad, he broke his bed, told me I was a b_ch to get out and take his sister with me. I asked him why he dosent act like this at school and he said "cause stupid, I would go to detention"

His mood changes in less than a blink of an eye. I wont give up on him, he's my baby and it kills me to have to take him from doctor to doctor but until I get him the help he needs I am going to do it.

He needs constant supervision, its not fair to his sister, being the only parent I feel guilty because I have to give him so much supervision, its not fair to his twin sister, however she is so very understanding.