Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Support Group

I have had OCD/GAD my entire life, my mother used to always worry about me bc I was always depressed (still am to this day). I know you have all ready heard this but suicide is never the way to go, NO situation is worth ending your life over.

I don't think it was a good idea for your mother to say some of the things she said, kinda reminds me of my mother in a way (alcoholic and addicted to pain pills, and has bipolar and personality disorders.) She has tried to commit suicide 3 times in the past year and half and that has really killed me.

You may think that suicide doesn't seem so bad but it really is. It kills me everyday what my mother has tried to do, it hurts me so much b/c I love her to death and she can't see it.

I'm sure you have friends/family members, a Higher Power that loves you dearly, no matter who we are, we are never totally alone. You also have us here at dailystrength, we care, I care, we are here to help eachother, to make it through the struggles of life.

Please know you are not the only one who has suffered a horrific past, we all have them hun, I know you know that.

You have to look deep down in yourself and find happiness, you cannot search for it in other people or you will just keep coming up short. You have to love yourself and be happy with yourself before you can make anyone else happy.

You cannot let your mothers definition of you rule you are make you who you are. YOU are the only one who MAKES YOU, YOU. You cannot let words define you, you have to define them.

If you think negative, you will be encompassed in negativity.

If you think positive, positive will actually come, takes time but its true.

I was in therapy once and we were told in order to change we have to change our thoughts, then change our words, then our actions.

If you want to be happy, start thinking of being happy, then start talking about being happy and then start acting happy, soon it will come natural and you will be happy. there is always a light at the end of every tunnel no matter how dark it gets somedays.

trust me, I have been there, I am not you and will never understand your situation indefinetly but I have and am going through similar experiences with my mother.

you stay strong, and I am always here to listen and to talk.

take care

and plz if you feel suicidal call a hotline or check yourself into a mental health clinic, they will take you and help you.

Hi. I just read your post on the OCD group page. Im really sorry that you feel so bad. I can understand somewhat how you feel. My mom is an alcoholic, always been and always will be. My parents divorced when I was 10 and my dad moved to another country and left us with my mom so life was really really hard and I was always depressed. But you know what? It does get better, I know you cant believe it but it does. I got married, have a beautiful son and my own home and Im happy.
What has helped me is telling my parents how much pain they have caused, getting it all off my chest has helped me accept the past as the past and enjoy the present.
Im not going to lie, there are days I still sit and think of the past and I do cry about it and it is ok.
You have control of your life and its up to you to make your dreams and happiness come true and you will just dont give up.
You will make lots of friends here that are really awesome. Hey, we all have one thing in common :)

The teenage years are always the hardest. What your mom said was completely hurtful, and is not true. You acknowledge that you are a talented, cute and friendly person and you need to keep reminding yourself of this. And although it is hard, try to stop living in the past since this seems to be what is aiding in your depression.

I'm so sorry to hear that your mother would say that to you and put ideas into your head like that.

If friends are saying nice things about you, its because its true and you must believe it.
What you need is something to focus on. Try to stop looking for happiness in other people (I've been there) as the one and only one who can find happiness for you is you! What hobbies do you like or enjoy? When you are alone, do them, if its writing, then write to express yourself- even if its fictional- if its art, use it to express yourself. If its music, then dance to express yourself. I heard once that music with 60 beats per second lifts the inner mood. What I sometimes do (This works for me) is listen to some slow songs which exress how I am feeling, and then listen to something upbeat and go crazy mad to it!
Gloria Gaynor- I Will Survive is an example song. Lady Gaga- Just Dance is a good one as well.
Yes, killing yourself is not good, think of all the people you will be leaving behind who love and support you, and remember IT DOES get better. I have faith that happiness is out there for you. Don't wait for it to find you, have fun in things and with people you enjoy and you will feel uplifted. Let us know how you get on with this. x

The way you describe how you're feeling reminds me of my sr. year in high school.

I was under the impression (mostly becuase my parent's told me so) that my feelings of hopelessness, anxiety, fear, etc. would just go away. i would just grow out of them. So I waited, and waited, and waited, and then lost hope, but didn't do anything.

One day I realized that if I wanted things to change, I was going to have to dig deep down inside myself and change them(obviously I'm still working on that whole process, and will be for the rest of my life).

I strongly advise you to get some professional help. Most colleges have counselors that are available in the health and wellness offices at no or VERY little cost that can help you work through some of these feelings.

If you don't leave yourself vulnerable to a let down, you won't be able to experience the happiness either.

hi,
i read the other posts..wow...good hearted !info...
u shd really read all of them and let them absorb into yr mind.....hehehe!
well, i wnt to offer my support .tho after all that i dont know if i can say much new. i will say that killing yrself is not a good idea...
why? many reasons
one is that i was there ..many times and each time i didnt .i eventually found a better life.i slowly learned to see life in different ways.u can have ocd and still be able to have good realtionships,fun ,etc..i am working on it if we can learn to separate ourselves fm ocd suffering we will gain a measure of peace..it takes effort but the more we can gain sm power over ocd the more we will be free.
afterall ,i think wanting to take life has lot to do with being "trapped in pain".which we never are but SOMEHOW our minds trick us.rememeber,u can always get past the suffering.u have before right? u WILL again...this too shall pass..