Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Support Group

Us OCD/GAD folk can overthink and over dissect a situation or momemt like no one else, can't we? I admire people who can just move on in their brains. Not us, we can take gult, shame, embarassment, etc. to a whole new level....and then some. I can conjure up a memory that happen 30 years ago and guilt it to death even still. So, in my mind, you're pretty normal. ha.

I have done this before with friends too. I have a very difficult time letting things go as well, but I try to and I eventually do, takes me about a week. I think it just comes down to realizing this is OCD, you have to know she is not obsessing over it unless she has OCD too, even then she may not, it may not be her type of OCD.

But you did what you could and you apologized, you righted your wrong and made things better so just know that and that is all. Your friend loves you and you love her, cherish that time together and know that its just your OCD getting out of hand.

take care and stay strong!

You did the right thing, no one is perfect. It is okay to make a mistake. You corrected it and she forgave you, give it some time I'm sure things will be back to normal. Ha this seems soooo familiar, Im sure after acouple days or maybe a week you be fine. I can think of several occasions in my life that relate to this and all i can say is you are overthinking it just as I do. The other person is fine, they still care, they cherish your friendship more than not being your friend obvisiously. Maybe do something nice for her randomly, I'm sure you'll feel better then.

I have made so many mistakes it's not even funny. And I also overthink every single action/remark everything. It's not fun.

Some of the best advice I ever received was this..."once you apologize to someone, it's on them." There's really nothing more you can do.

If this situation was in reverse, would you not forgive her?

hi
i relate..its a combo of being highly sensitive and having obsessive thinking.
the feeling of hurting another hurts u-high sensitivity
the repeating of the scenario AFTER it has passed and in this case resolved is ocd..
if u jsut call it all ocd ,that leaves a question of why u wd be so hurt emotionally..
do u not really want her fiendship?if not sometimes ocd acts as protection, making it hard for u to continue the friendship..
if u do want to be friends ,then yr ocd is kind of preventing u from enjoyment..focus on easing yr ocd..
fto do this first recognize that this worry u have is ocd...
then call it ocd each time u feel the thoughts arise..
its VERY important to call them ocd and NOT get into the "what ifs,whys " etconce u can call it ocd,do something else to distract yrself from being anxious...music,exercise,movie etc..whatever works for you..
ok:)

Having been on the receiving end of this from a friend quite recently, I can tell you that it is very easy to forgive a friend when they wrongly accuse. Its about understanding, seeing it from their point of view, loving them for their good and getting over it, then moving on. I'm sure this is how your friend feels about you. Part of OCD is a bit of paranoia and obsessing over little things.
Take the above advice from the previous comment, about doing something nice at random, or even invite her over for a drink or go out somewhere together. Having a fun time will help you realise that the friendship is still strong and give you something nice to think about. x

I have difficulty letting things go, too. If something doesn't go according to my "perfect" plan I can't accept it and it just replays over and over plaguing me with what I could or should have done. It's so frustrating! It makes it hard to live in the present.

It will pass. I understand how it feels though. I'm so sorry you're going through this :( Don't worry, everything will be alright ::hugs::