Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Support Group

Is there a way that you can block him on MySpace? I found that it was a lot easier not to think about my ex if I cut off all ties with him. To me that means blocking any website he's on if it's possible and getting rid of his phone numbers. As far as the music thing goes, I don't know what to do about that. Maybe try to make new memories with the music you're listening to. And do you currently see a psychologist? Because they might be able to suggest ways to get over this obsession which seems to be distressing you a lot. But just know that you're not alone, even people without OCD always wonder about their ex. I hope I helped at least a little bit.

Thank you so much. I was thinking about just not looking at his profile anymore. I was also going to take off that tracker as well.

Also, I wanted to mention that my ex was my first love. We were together on and off for five years. I met him when I was 13 and we stopped talking when I was 18. He actually treated me pretty badly. My current fiance treats my really good. I mean he's by far the greatest and most sweetest man on the face of the earth. We also have a daughter together.

Trust me when I say I can totally relate to this. I totally obsessed about this guy that I "dated" for 5 years..on and off. It was on his terms...I was always the one asking to get together. And somehow we always ended up having sex every time we did get together. I was so in love with him. There were times though that we would do other things. I felt like we had a connection. I didn't think it was all about sex. He did tell me he loved me too (especially when I played it so cool and was with someone else). Anyway...he cried over me. Now we are "friends" but he still treats me like shit. He has an excuse for the way he acts. Whatever. I have been dating someone else for about 4 years now (the guy that I started dating..that had my ex confessing his love to me). I really not as interested in this guy anymore and we will most likely break up at some point. I just wanted you to know that I have been there. My ex is on my facebook and I check his stuff too. He was on a dating site (that I was helping him meet people...) and I checked that. I would email him to make sure all was okay...so that he could see my name I guess and think of me. Looking at things now though..I see he is the one that has the problem and is missing out. These people don't change. I was sooooo depressed because of him. My world revolved around him. My emotions revolved around him. Are you in counseling? You need to treat him like you would treat any other obsession. You need to hold off on any kind of "reassurance" compulsions. In time, it will get better. Trust me girl..he is the one that is missing out.

For me, breaking ties was the only way to stop doing this kind of thing. It can be really hard to unfriend ppl online but I think sometimes the only way to stop looking is to be unable to. When I had this problem the only thing that helped me was my sister deleting everything for me- phone numbers, myspace, etc... I was really mad at her at first but now I am so grateful that she did that for me. I hope things get better for you soon!