Obesity Support Group

I can understand how you feel. Almost all of the pictures we have I am not in them because I take the pictures. I HATE seeing myself in pictures.

Sorry you are having a bad day... I know it's hard but try not to dwell on how far you have to go, but make a small goal for yourself... say lose 5 lbs... as long as you keep persevering the weight won't come back but you will go from strength to strength...accept that every day won't be perfection...but keep trying and you will get there...move forward from today and let everyone else see the beautiful woman your nephew knows and loves...We can all relate to how sickened we feel when we see how we have let ourselves go...but be proud that you are taking charge now... onward and upward.

I know it isn't easy but if you can be proud of all the accomplishments you do make even those little ones count for something. In my mind I think everyone is unique and special and that includes you. So even if you are down right now hang in there kiddo because by taking it one day at a time and knowing that you are not alone is worth the effort to keep on trying. Stay strong:)

Hi there I know how you feel, I am liking a few pounds been 100 pounds over weight and I'm only 5'6" tall. My son passed away July 25th 2009 and we all took pictures at the funeral and when I saw mine I was so depressed and sad and I looked like a blown up balloon I wanted so bad to be out of those pictures and to top it all off my mother in law RIGHT NEXT to my DEAD son laying in the hospital bed like not even two feet away seen me and kept calling me FAT and making the big round circle with her hands and kept doing it over and over in front of everyone, would you beleive when I walked away fast from her my husband stayed with her and NEVER came and comforted me. So on the very day my son hadn't been dead more than two hrs. was waiting for funeral home people to come pick him up and she did that too me. She just flew in from Puerto Rico. My husband is puerto rican. I was never so hurt in all my life and there layed in the bed right next to her my son and her grandson and she had my FAT on her mind! It was the worst day of my life and I could hardly breathe for missing my son and all the trama from that. She had the nerve to come to my house after we finally got home and I took off walking and left my house. it was bad enough in the past she would pinch me and pull me away and NOT let me be in any family photos and actually hurt me and I would cry and there again my husband would get in the pictures and all the other wifes and family but NOT me! Now I don't speakl spanish so have never been able to really commincate with her that much at all so never did anything wrong to her at ALL. I told my husband how I felt and all he do is just look at me and just listen NEVER did anything about it. I have been to the point of such depression a few times I almost couldn't pull myself oit. I have a son who suffered TBI and a 13 year old daughter with two colostomies and a fistual and a 5 year old with Autisim and bipolar and suffered through my dads sucide and my brothers sucide and two siblings attemping sucide and my other sons death just July 25th of this year and talk about hurting and then have her to embrassass me and hurt me like she did. I am 52 years old and perimenopause is doing me no favors and this weight is so hard to get off I could starve to death and not lose a pound it seems. what in the world do you do???? I can use a friend and someone to help each other lose. sorry for all the venting and such long message! Carol

Oh my you poor dear my deepest sympathy on the lost of your son I do not want to imagine how horrible that is not to mention the lost of you other love ones I look at my situation now and say you think you have problem but take a look at someone else shoes then I have to thank God for his mercy I pray you make it through this I am battling the bulge one day at a time now i am detoxing it is rough but I plan to do it this time let me know if you want to keep up with my results would be honored to talk to you as a supporting friend

It's never easy to look at yourself when you're heavy, especially when you have the whole "camera adds 10 pounds" bullshit happening.

Having worked in the fitness industry doing membership sales as well as the 15+ years of being a gym rat, i have seen SO many heavy to downright MORBIDLY obese people walk into a gym, sign up, maybe work out once or twice and then never step foot in the gym again.

Can't says that i blame them much. Back when i was obese i just walked around the neighborhood at night for my exercise, so i didn't really experience that firsthand. But when i got into gym sales, i really did.

One of the first things i would tell a client (i was a personal trainer also) is how proud i was of them for taking the first step by actually just GETTING to the gym.

Yes, it's a long, hard and arduous road to travel. Is it hard ? HELL YEAH !! Let's face it, if getting into or staying in shape were EASY, everyone would look great and be healthy. Sad fact is in this country, people are so friggin' lazy and so they think "wow, it's just easier to do nothing and stay fat, so be it".

Forget obesity, it's even hard for the average, healthy american housewife to walk into a gym and not be intimited ! My gym is the most popular chain in my region and it has the facilites for both the average housife just wanting to take a yoga class to bodybuilding competitors and fitness models like myself and my friends there. Hell yeah it's intimidating.

In mine and a lot of other trainers' opinions, it has a lot to do with whether or not the individual has ever been healthy or if they're on a roller coaster. Because if you've been healthy in the past, then at least you knew what it was like and how you looked and felt at the time, unlike the person who's been obese all their lives and has no idea.

Bottom line folks, as scary and hard as it's gonna be...you gotta start somewhere and sometime. Noone ever said it was gonna be easy.

Thanks for all the words of encouragement