Obesity Support Group

First I like to say I think you are very attractive, beautiful smile and skin... Instead of taking a negative spin on this lets look at it from a different angle.... I've had 5 friends get divorced in the past 3 years, all very attractive thin girls...so looking good was not the key to a happy relationship....The physical attraction brought them together, but with any relationship you need more. All the dudes that have turned you down may have been just not for you....even if you were a size 4, they would get bored and accustom to you and move on. True love is really hard to find, but it's there...right now there is a guy out there who feels rejected too and wants a person who loves them even with their flaws.....I can tell you because my hubbie had some issues (won't go into detail) that got him rejected over and over. He told me he had given up when he met me, but I looked past this flaw and saw the real person and all the good qualities that even the most handsome men don't have....One day you will find a mature man who feels the same about you...it may be harder, but in the long run it's worth the wait.

Listen, let a guy who's been to both sides of the spectrum give some insight here. When i graduated Marine boot camp in 1989 i was 5'10" @ 165 pounds and lean. 6 years later, during a bad marriage and divorce i weighed almost 400. I took up weight training and dropped over 100 in a year and was in the running the compete and win in a bodybuilding comp in 2003 before my unit got activated to deploy to Iraq.
As it stands right now, i'm 5'10" @ 343 pounds (as of this am). Without having taking a bf test, i'm about 30 pounds, mayle a little less towards my goal since i have a LOT of muscle mass.
I have been married twice and both of my wives had been fit in the past, but my first wife gained a lot of weight after having our two kids. My current wife is slightly heavy now, mostly due to stress and depression, but is still the most beautiful woman in the world !!
During my first divorce and a recent trial seperation, i did a lot of dating. Some were with heavy women, others were very physically fit women i met in the gym or online. I belonged to a few dating sites, and in every profile i made it perfectly clear about my size.
I found a few women that loved my size, because despite a little gut and double chin, i'm all muscle and i made them feel safe and comfortable. Best case in point is my wife...she loves my muscle and having my arms wrapped around her (i'm know for my arms) and she knows that we're both working towards losing our excess weight.
A lot of women have been honest as well and told me that because of my size i look intimidating and unapproachable. My simple response to that is if someone doesn't want to tke the time to say hello and get to know me and see that i'm just a really nice guy that happens to be big, then the heck with em'.
Dating when you're heavy can be very difficult emotionally. You just have to stay strong , be honest with any future dates beforehand about your size if that helps avoid any embarassing moments and accept nothing less than what YOU want. We bigger people can tell right off the bat by looking at a persons eyes and body language hr or not our size will be an issue with someone.
Me, i get looks everywhere i go lol and i like it because i've worked my ass off to build the muscle that i have, NATURALLY.

So hang in there ! There's someone for EVERYONE :)

I know most men are shallow when it comes to a gal's looks. Try these two websites and find a MAN who APPRECIATES a full-size loving women!!!!! www.MoreToLove.com and
www.BBPeopleMeet.com
Hope this helps. You are beautiful just the way you are and don't let anyone make you feel differently. Hugs to You!!!

I am totally with you on this. There are some men who do find fuller figure women attractive. Just keep looking. Don't let it discourage you.
On the other hand, I am very overweight and have come in contact with men who think that you are desperate and take advantage of us. Be careful out there.
Just remember to be a confident woman and you will appeal to sooo many more people then if you are depressed all the time.

Hi there.

I know how you feel. I'm a 300 pound+ woman, who has been turned down many many times. I can understand what you are going through. It sucks being alone. But don't loose faith. I met my current boyfriend of 2 years on the internet. It was on a non dating forum, and I wasn't even trying to get a relationship at the time. We started off talking on the phone as just friends then began "dating" even though he lived far away. I flew out to meet him, expecting him to see me then turn and leave. But he didnt. He accepted me, because he got to know me before he actually got to see what I looked like. He loved my personality, and my inner beauty, so when he saw me for the first time, I was already beautiful to him. We shared pictures, but it was always of my head down to my shoulders, so I guess I cheated a little. Heh.

Anyway, my point is, don't loose faith. Like I said, I had given up and then all of a sudden God (or whoever you believe in) dropped this handsome man into my lap and said "here ya go." My best advice is that just be yourself, be confident. I learned while in high school not to give a f*ck what people thought and that really turned heads. And you know what? It feels great. I hope you feel better... I know it isn't easy. It can be the worse feeling in the world. But don't let them win.

First, there are guys out there who will love us for who we ARE and not what we look like. Honest! It's just hard for us - when we have low self esteem - to get out there so they might find us. (Notice I didn't say so we can find THEM! LOL!)

Please don't be so hard on yourself. You are absolutely beautiful and PERFECT just the way you are. Besides, guys are jerks. (lol)

i met my guy on plenty of fish and im not skinny- and he really is the most wonderful person so there is hope for you yet :) . i think that u will truely find someone that will love u for something other than your weight although i do understand how it plays a big effect on your life. if u want to meet someone online then put photos of urself up that are natural of you and then they can see you in all your beautiful glory, when i fist joined my datin website i had pics of mself that were flattering on from the neck up and then when people added me to facebook and things like that they wernt interested anymore, so i do empathise and know how u feel, just put nice pictures of yourself up but where people can see what you really are. Good luck on your journey xx