Obesity Support Group

I can only surmise that your parents didn't show/teach you to have healthy/ will balance meals & what to & not buy & right serveing portions,dunno.
any way. fiber, protine, portions & set schedul sleep pattern ( restful sleep )& Walking are must have & do's.

AM. I have 3 to 4 hands full of dry fiber cer-o w 1/2 banana & 1 cup of coffee.
Fiber is a must have & it keeps me feeling full for a few hrs..
I never did eat lunch. u might opt to always have a veggy party tray available at all times.
For dinner I have bean soup/ 1/8 size cuop or up to 1/2 cup of beans, I use 1 chicken flavor bullion cub in 1/2 cup of hot water w beans added
w 4 to 5 wheat crackers crumbered in to bean soup.
beans being protien. beans keep me feeling full for a few hrs.
for so called mid nite raid. I have other 1/2 of banana & occassionally w 2 wheat crackers or hand full of fiber cer-o.Soy milk has sweet taste. use cold. ya at 1st it's not so tastety but after u get use to it, reg milk won't taste good.

I have 2 cups of coffee daily & 3 cans of Sams dite soda.
I use 1/2 n 1/2 coffee w 1 level spoon full of fat free/sugar free powder creamer & half single serveing pk of sweet n low. followed by 5 to 7 gulps of bottle water.
3 cans of soda's last me throughout the day & I have at least 1/2 can left, to have when I temporary wake in middle of night.

Sounds like your honey might need to go on healthy food intake program w u.
Beats weight on our joints & knee replacements & extry time required for surgion/Dr/EMS to have access to our hearts thur blubber.

I have blubber butt & belly rolls.sigh.

Oh ya.I almost forgot mental health goes w our weight & what we eat & portions that we eat...
Recently I'v came to learn that I stress eat. if I'm stressed for 2 or more days. I tend to pig out.unhealthy potions & junk.

This is by far not an active support group. stay w us. people do adventually post new post & new replys to old post.
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Uhm. I'm assuming you didn't mean that to come off as rude as it did. My parents taught me healthy eating habbits. They are wonderful parents. And I really don't need a nutrition consultation. I know all of that. I have a food addiction plus a genetic tendency to be overweight. I came here for emotional support.

Hey Julians! There are some really rude people around here and they feel better if they push down others. Don't give a damn about them (I know it's hard).
BUT! Most of us feel the same way as you do and we fight to lose weight. You look really beautiful in your photo. I feel the energy and the power in your words, you just need to grab them and ride them.
If you ask me it's the best to start with baby steps. With small changes so that your soul and your body can adapt to them.
A little bit more fruits, less sweets, just a little exercise. Have you tried the 'baby step method' yet?

I recognize myself a lot in what you wrote. It is hard when you have spent your life with the mentality i live to eat, instead of i eat to live. I LOVE food. My ideal weekend would be cooking and eating to my hearts content. That is something about me that will probably never change. I decided a while back i was not going to spend the rest of my life going between one extreme diet to the next, in the hope that eventually the diet would get me to lose the weight and somehow miraculously keep it off forever. I spent the last 20 odd years gaining the weight and jojo'ing around on the scales. I don't know why i ever thought that a diet would fix a situation i spent my whole life creating. That is the real truth. We all have habits that make us gain weight and not lose it. Because weightloss and weight gain are the outcome of the same thing. What we eat and how much. We don't gain weight from not doing exercise, we gain weight because we eat more energy then our body uses, and then it turns into fat.
So here is my advice, dream yourself into the person you want to be, if you were slender and healthy what do you think your habits would be? Would you have the energy to get up every morning and got for a 30 minute run? Would you wake up and make yourself a breakfast of oven roasted tomatoes and eggs on whole wheat bread? Would you be at the restaurant and order a salad and savor the fresh veggies? Would you eat a small bowl of icecream and strawberries on Saturday and not feel guilty, because you only wanted a little and only took a little? Do you have the energy to play with your kid, and take him for long hikes, make fancy tuna sandwiches for his lunch?
If you were slender and thin, who would you be, what habits would you have? Why in this future self are you naturally thinner than you are now? Thats what you should do, create lasting change. Find habit and hobbies you Want to have, things that help you life healthier. If you can start living like that, you will lose weight and continue to lose weight in the long term. There isn't a magic diet or a 2 month exercise regime that will guarantee that you lose the weight and keep it off. This is your life, you will live it, so live it well.
Dont tell yourself you can never eat carbs, sugar or fat again. Because thin people eat those things all the time, but they have habits that allow them to eat in moderation. So think about what you want your thinner life to be like and start making small changes today to get there. Eat a fruit as a snack. Fill half your plate with salad. Take a smaller amount of dressing. Only eat half the piece of cake. Make your own healthier muffins. Make your own muesli. Go for a long walk, for no other reason then to get some fresh air. Play soccer with your kid.
Every healthy choice you make is a step in the right direction. Realize that you being physically hungry (actual hunger, not cravings, learn to feel the difference) is your bodies way of telling you, you are DOING IT! You are eating moderately and in tune with your body. Hunger is the signal that you have burnt up your last meal and need sustenance. In the beginning it is hard to really know real hunger from the crazy cravings and wants, so start off by actually keeping a journal of ALL the food you eat. You don't have to share it, but look over it at the end of the week. And be critical. One a scale of good, moderate, bad, how did you eat each day. Why was it good, moderate, bad? What would you do different next time, what would you chose, what do you wish you had done, and replay the day in your mind with your ideal outcome. That is how you will identify habits that need tweaking and opportunities to improve. Take a few minutes at the start of each day, to go over the day before. And if it all went to hell, you binged all day, and ate cookies for lunch. Figure out why?! Learn from it! Every slip up is a chance to learn something more about how you relate to food, and why you have the habits you have today.
Every time you slip up, learn from it, think about it, and if you want to have someone else go through it, msg me. I can help you if you want, i am not expert, but i have been where you are now. We can figure out What triggered it? Why did you chose to do that? What did you gain? Because we binge not to hurt ourselves or out of weakness, but because somewhere deep inside, we get something from it. Quietness, stress relief, comfort.
It is the cumulative that counts. So never give up, forgive yourself quickly for your bad choices and take every new moment as a new chance to be better.
And if you need support, or advice, just ask for it. You are not alone.

I had to figure out what worked for me and my body. For years I tried low cal low fat 'diets', they never worked and I was always hungry.

With my last pregnancy I was borderline diabetic, I was one number away, so my OB suggested I might want to eat a lower carb diet. I sort of did while pregnant but didn't want to restrict too much while pregnant.
After I had the baby I followed the atkins way of eating for awhile. I lost some but didn't stick to it. I lost about 15 lbs in 2 weeks so I knew it would work.

A couple years went past and I decided for my health I needed to lose the weight. My knees were starting to ache when I walked, So I went back to low carb, sort of followed atkins but not religiously. I lost over 80 lbs in 13 months. Low carb works for my body.

I refuse to have a diet or anything run my life. I still will eat a piece of cake at a special occasion. I get right back on track the next day.
My biggest problem is drinking. I rarely drink, but now I am not drinking at all because I'm afraid it will add on so many lbs.

Right now I am 25 lbs to my goal so I am having a heck of a time losing anything!

My suggestion is to eat real food. I eat meats, fish, chicken. Eggs(full of protein and keep you full. Real cheese(nothing processed). Fresh or frozen vegies. Cut out white foods, no white sugar, no white four, no white rice. I avoid the sugar and flour at all times, except when I splurge on cake at special occasions. Although now my oldest daughter has been using almond flour to make stuff for me.
I use brown rice. Only real butter and cream.

You can do it. It's not easy, but you just have to get into that mindset. It took me years sadly.

I think you need to work on your self esteem first of all. If you have low self esteem you may well not be successful in changing your eating patterns. Even if you lose weight if you still see yourself as fat or ugly, the weight will come back. I am sure your husband finds you attractive, I have found weight is irrelevant to many men. What makes a difference is self esteem - if their partner is constantly criticising herself, refusing to have photos taken, when happy moments are captured instead of saying 'what a lovely photo, I remember that day, we were happy' she says 'god I look old/fat/ugly', then that is unattractive. Being fat does not mean you are ugly, you look pretty in your photo.

If you want to live for your son, then do it. Play with him, do fun stuff regardless of your size. If you wait til you are thin before doing fun things/wearing nice clothes or whatever, then you may never do it. Your son will only be young once and you don't want to waste that precious time hating yourself. Also, if he hears mommy making nasty comments about herself, or refusing to do stuff with him because she is fat and ugly, that may colour his perception of himself and of others.

If you want to change your eating, make a food diary and also note down emotions you feel when you get cravings to eat. That way you can find trigger foods, places, people and situations and try to avoid them. It may help to make a shopping list and stick to it or get shopping delivered online if you might give in to temptation. If you work, make your own lunches instead of buying and don't bring money or a bank card so you cannot buy food. Maybe a reward system might help? Every time you are tempted, note down what it would have cost and 'save up' for something nice, or put the actual cash in a jar or a saving account. Or give yourself a tick or star on a chart and think of a small treat when you get to 5 or 10 stars, like a magazine or a nice bubbly bath or a trip to the cinema.

I am just throwing out ideas here, I hope I don't offend anyone.

First of all, you're VERY lucky to have a husband who is so supportive and loving :) that's extremely helpful. Iv'e lost over 120 pounds and my wife has been very supportive also, even though she has a lot of weight to lose too, but i constantly remind her of how beautiful she is, regardless of her size.

Weight loss is a state of mind and a discipline. Changing your eating habits and your relationship with food is the hardest part, believe me, i LOVE my food lol

I have the added benefit of being a veteran, a Marine and so i drew on that discipline. I also have a LOT of great facebook friends who are also dedicated to health and fitness so that helps a LOT ; especially since i can't work anymore and i'm on FB so much LOL I get MOST of my emotional support from them :) You're more than welcome to look me up.

Date of post being:6/24/12
Today date being:7/1/12

where did u go ? How r u doing ?

Burrrrp,opps.

I understand how overwhelming the whole idea of losing weight can be, we feel defeated before we begin & that drains us of alot of positive energy. Keep in mind, the people that win the weightloss battle aren't stronger, they just never gave up. Any setback was just a set-up for a bigger comeback. You are blessed with a wonderful husband, don't attach any negatives to that like worrying if he'll stray. And I'm sure your son wouldn't like his mom feeling so bad about herself so love who you are and be inspired to make the changes that will help you feel even better about yourself. You can do it, I can do it, we just have to keep trying.