Obesity Support Group

I want to lose over 120 lb. and I am going to water aerobics at the Y tonight. It is hard to motivate myself but I can't keep making excuses. I have to do it!
I can't go for walks so I have to do something in the water. Can you join a local Y? There are also things you can buy to use at home. Every day a person needs to do at least 20 minutes of excerise to get the heart rate up is what I read somewhere.
Good luck we can only think of one day at a time.

From what you say it sounds like your problem is at least partly in your head. Have you considered counselling to develop a more positive body image?

If you cant love yourself, then who do you expect will love you? I honestly believe that if you find a way to look at yourself in the mirror and think, i am glad i am me, everything becomes easier.

Are there any underlying issues with your self image? Mine all pretty much stem from the sexual abuse i experienced in my childhood. All your fears, your over eating habits, your self destructive behavior all come from you in the end. Stop thinking about your weight, and invest time in your mental health. Seek a F2F support group or see someone to help you with your issues.

If you are already fighting a battle on the inside, fighting the external battle of your weight will never really succeed. We can all by happy, it is finding our road to it that is the hard part. Accepting the things we cannot change, and changing the things that we have some power over. This is your life, live each day so that when you go to bed you feel proud. Take pride in what you do! Do things the best you can! And remember tomorrow is a new day, and a new chance to start over. In the end it is the accumulation of our choices that matter. If you never give up, you will always succeed!

I Believe with all my Heart, that anyone who seeks help, deserves help and that they know somewhere deep inside that they Deserve something better. DS is a great place to get input and advice and chat with like minded people. But when push comes to shove, it is the time away from the computer that matters. Dont be to hard with yourself, and seek help.

I saw a therapist for a couple years, she said my problems were more than she could help me with, she suggested a psych.
He put me on meds for bipolar, stress/anxiety attacks, depression and sleep. That's when I lost 80 lbs.

I have been stuck for the last year and I think it's because I let my mom move in with me. My whole childhood was full of emotional abuse.

I don't drive so that makes it really hard to go exercise anywhere. I do have a Wii and Wii Fit but I let my daughter take the Wii to her room for the summer.

What exactly is the problem with your mother? Why do you feel "stuck"?

Regarding your daughter, it is not healthy for people, especially children, to have computers in their bedrooms, it encourages playing them late into the night and developing bad sleep patterns. Take it out of her room again and put it in the living room for everyone's use. You are her mother and you paid for it. She can use it for a set number of hours per day as long as it doesn't disturb anyone else. You use it when you want to and she fits her use around that.

If she wants a console which she has sole exclusive use of, she can save her pocket money or get a Saturday job or paper round if she's old enough, and buy one herself.

Can you walk comfortably or do you have health conditions which prevent this? Are the streets around you safe for walking? If so you can take a short, slow walk only 10mins a day around the block. Then after you are used to that, walk to the next block. Take baby steps and build up the length of walk and the speed of walking.

If not is there any public transport? You must have some way of getting around if you can't drive, how do you get to work, or hospital appointments or shopping or anywhere outside your home? Can your mother drive? Or any friends? Can you find a reasonably priced taxi service?

People honestly are not looking at you. They often have too much going on in their own lives to worry about looking at a person they never met. If they do look, who cares if a stranger looks? Even if you do see a different looking person and notice them, you probably forget within a few minutes. Others are the same.

I think you should seek another therapist as the last one doesn't sound very good.

My daughter doesn't have a computer in her room, the computer is in the living room. She did have a netbook her grandma got her for Christmas, but it isn't working and needs to be sent back.

I walk all the time. We live in a smallish town and are one street over from Main St. We walk up to the pharmacy to get my meds and to the stores up there.

My mom was emotionally abusive my whole life. She was thin and so was her side of the family. My sister was thin, still is, she wears boys size jeans because she is so small. I was always made aware that I was fat and therefor not good enough, not as good as them. Of course that made me start eating in private. Which leads to eating more.

I'm interested to know why you would want to be "so thin you'd cut yourself on my bones" !!?? That wouldn't be healthy and it wouldn't be beautiful.

Women often torment themselves about their weight because they believe men all want someone super-skinny. Most men actually prefer a curvy, hourglass figure!

I'm interested to know why you would want to be "so thin you'd cut yourself on my bones" !!?? That wouldn't be healthy and it wouldn't be beautiful.

Women often torment themselves about their weight because they believe men all want someone super-skinny. Most men actually prefer a curvy, hourglass figure!

I used to, not now. I just grew up thinking you had to be as thin as possible.

i use to cover up myself and never look in the mirror knowing how heavy and heavier i was getting. now. .
i'm naked in the house, mirrors everywhere.
i'm losing weight now.
no. i'm not happy with what i see but i can see what i'm working on and for me... it's better.
this is not a sex thing. i live in the desert in california and this is what i do now... in the house, curtains closed.