Obesity Support Group

I know exactly how you feel. I feel the same way.
It's hard to get intimate with someone when you're not comfortable with yourself. You sound very lucky that you have found someone who sees not only your outer beauty, but your inner too. You have to put your insecurities aside.
If you don't think you're beautiful then it will be hard for others to think you are...and believe me, you are! =)

Goodluck!

If he wants to spend time with you and kiss and touch you, then he finds you attractive. It means that the insecurity is yours alone. Try to let go or it could push him away.

Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. I weigh 270 pounds and am 5'1". I have stretch marks all over, saggy breasts and my stomach hangs - well, everything hangs. I got nice bat wings on my arms, and my thighs are as big as the average woman's waist. Believe it or not, there are still men who like looking at me naked.

Again, if he is showing interest, then he finds you attractive. Start slow. I'm going to assume you are still a teenager. I want to tell you not to have sex with him just because he is the first person to show you interest. There will be many men that will show you interest in your life, but not all of them will be good enough for you. Make sure this is someone you really care about and not just the first guy that comes along.

I agree with SunnyBlues on this one.. You may not find yourself attractive but trust me, there will be men out there that do.. and just cause they show you attention does not mean that they are good enough for you...

I agree, if he is intrested, he already finds you attractive, BUT, men will find you sexy if you show confidence. You be in charge! It is your body; they will love the "chase!" A man is inticed by how you make him feel. End of story. That is why sometimes a drop dead handsome guy will leave his wife to be with an overweight average girl....she tries harder, gives him the attention he is looking for and makes him feel special. His beautiful wife is busy pampering herself and making life all about her. You are special. You have alot to offer. Be genuine and sincere and he will stick around. Remember, no guy wants a "needy" or "clingy" girl. Good Luck! I have five handsome italian brothers and I have heard all the stories from both sides!
Don't be afraid, you have nothing to loose and a potential love relationship to gain.

OH....ONE THING I FORGOT...WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM ON THE FIRST OR SECOND DATE...MAKE THE NIGHT MEMORABLE THOUGH AND HE'LL BE BACK!

The more you establish trust with this person, the more comfortable you will feel to let your guard down. Give yourself time, and allow yourself to enjoy the fact that you are on this person's mind big time! Ah yes, the thrill of the chase...good times...

When someone wants You and they are seeking you out for a Date that must tell You something about them. They must see a very Special Person. I know this is hard but you need to try and relax and take this one day at a time give Him/Her a chance to show you how much they care. You don't have to rush into anything there's nothing saying you have to kiss on the first Date.

You will never know unless you give this Person a chance the first Date is always hard but it will go by fast. You are in my Prayers I hope this helps in some way I know I'm the only man here but I'm trying Good Luck.

And always remember You are a Great Person!!

I agree with what everyone else has been saying - he's talking to you and wanting to spend time with you - that's amazing! Definitely interested =]

I also wanted to say that I've been there. Before I got together with my boyfriend, I was terrified what he'd think of the real me - SunnyBlues put together an accurate description of what I think of my body. And you know what? He didn't even bat an eye, and still doesn't.

But yes, start slow, make sure this is someone you're truly interested in. You deserve the best!

You look pretty darned cute ! I don't think you have anything
to worry about.
You'll know when it's right and how to respond.

The only advice I can give you is to ignore Patti's well-meaning assumption that "men love the chase." I've been working in this field for a long time, and many (if not most) men say that they hate the chase! It's tiring, it's demeaning, and it forces us to develop a deceitful and predatory mentality. Since you have limited experience with men, the best book for you to read is "Why Men Are the Way They Are," by Warren Farrell.

I can also give you some feedback. I was once a night manager at a hotel. One of my responsibilities involved speaking every night with the phone operator at another hotel in town. Our conversations were more and more fun, and I finally started pressuring her to meet. She confessed that she was so obese that she had sentenced herself to a life alone. She worked graveyard shifts so she wouldn't meet people. She was a telephone operator so that no one would see her. I eventually talked her into a morning "date." (We both got off work at 7 am, and I came to her home.) By the way, you are just a teenager and I certainly don't recommend you meet him in such an intimate setting. But, the point is, we had such a good time together that morning that it changed her life. She immediately quit her job, and moved across country to start anew. The last time I heard from her, she had lost 200 pounds, was engaged, and thanked me for giving her a new lease on life.

Tyeis, life is an adventure. There is so much more in this world than the catty remarks made by school kids. You look adorable to me. Don't miss out on the adventures which await you.